Re: Dad uses facebook to teach daughter a lesson
I totally agree. You don't teach your kids a lesson by bring a fire arm into the picture, in any shape or form. That is scary.
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his approach is heavy handed.......
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@Milly I am not saying that you should change your opinion.
There is a huge difference between 5 years old and 15 years olds.
Yes he is angry. Maybe this was the final drop that led him to do this. Knowing how frustrating rude some 'kids' can be nowadays.
This one-moment take says nothing about his behavior in general.
To the man (not that he is listening): hope your daughter learns to behave.
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So now you got a beef with Texans too? Pickin’ on Hyderabadis isn’t enough??? 
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still intimidating ur own child with gun 
i think he needs some lesson in discipline first
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she complained about hosuework and used a few curse words. How is that disrespectful enough to shoot a laptop? How on earth would anyone justify shooting something that didnt need to be shot! I cant get over that.
She didn't steal, lie, cheat or anything worthy of that much anger.
He could have used a different approach.
The final drop, he himself said he couldnt remember what 'bad' thing she did previously when her phone got taken away from her, so it couldnt have been that bad if he couldnt recall exactly what it was.
If she was that bad of a daughter, if she was that disrespectful and rude why would he buy her a laptop, phone, iphone? She didnt buy them herself. She hasnt got a job.
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cant say a statement without mentioning some food, haan. Typical Hyderabadi!
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Look guys, I get what all the people are saying about guns not being the answer, I totally agree. My husband had a permit to carry a conceled hand gun when we got pregnant with Ammar,I made him get rid of it, I refused to live under the same roof as a firearm…
But you can obviously tell that this dad cares. I still definitely commend him for taking this approach, because it’s much better than being a typical, doormat gora parent or even worse, a dead beat dad. I think it’s also obvious that they live out in the country, and not in suburban Dallas. The culture is different out in the sticks.
I remember when my eldest sister was around 14-15…she was up late talking on the phone, even though she knew she had a strict no phone calls after 9pm rule…so my Ammi, who was a very no nonsense type of women, heard her (it was probably around midnight) and instead of telling her to hang up, quietly walked into her bedroom with a wire cutter, and cut the phone cord while my sister sat there with the handset in her hand 
Now I **know **that in no way compares to shooting up a laptop, but tough love is necessary sometimes. So while I don’t think I would ever go to an extreme like that, I also don’t think this dad is some deranged freak who would mutilate/kill his daughter and has her in imminent danger. Just my opinion…
Re: Dad uses facebook to teach daughter a lesson
What his daughter did does not warrant that kind of 'tough love'.
He may not physically kill her, but I feel he's doing a grand job of crushing her emotionally.
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I dont know them, and I still dont see anything wrong.
Further I know dozens of rude out of control kids who get everythiong from their parents.
Because they are parents and care for you, no matter how out of control their kid is.
Maybe he isnt sharing all her misbehavings, afterall she is still her daughter.
but :k:
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Am I missing something here, but aren't out of control kids the result of bad parenting?
I mean sure you have rebels in every household but where does a child learn that they 'deserve' everything they have. I commend the dad for this video, don't think the shooting bullet part was necessary but maybe he did that so there was no way of 'salvaging' the laptop. If he had just hidden it, he or the mother might give in and give it back.
Also I agree tough love is necessary but not at the last moment, behavioral issues and disrespect need to be nipped in the bud.
As a teenager, being embarassed worldwide is punishment enough.
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Well personally, and I mean very personally, I see many rude and disrespectful parents too, who physically and emotionally torture their kids, because they ‘care’. They ‘care’ about themselves and their own lives, they ‘care’ about their ‘izzat’ and nowt else. Inspite of their child not even saying boo to a goose.
It may seem like a minority of parents who are like this, but unless you know and have seen you can’t possibly imagine the amount of damage it causes.
Being a parent is a huge deal, it’s not about buying them ipods or even shooting their laptops, it’s about teaching morals, values, and humanity. In my opinion he failed to do that by resorting to using a weapon to teach his daughter a lesson.
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developed a great respect for you and more for your hubby :k:
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Well personally, and I mean very personally, I see many rude and disrespectful parents too, who physically and emotionally torture their kids, because they 'care'. They 'care' about themselves and their own lives, they 'care' about their 'izzat' and nowt else. Inspite of their child not even saying boo to a goose.
It may seem like a minority of parents who are like this, but unless you know and have seen you can't possibly imagine the amount of damage it causes.
Being a parent is a huge deal, it's not about buying them ipods or even shooting their laptops, it's about teaching morals, values, and humanity. In my opinion he failed to do that by resorting to using a weapon to teach his daughter a lesson.
I see what you are saying and I agree. I have seen such parents too.
But again, I cant judge this man based on this only.
I shall be quiet now, because I keep repeating myself and you all talk in fine english, and I feel as I am not getting my message across rightly with my second hand english =/
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TLK Bhaiya, I complete am in agreement that violence/guns/weapons of any sort are never the answer. Nor are we raising our children with maar/pithai…I had enough of that growing up. However, I am also a very strict parent. For example, last year, I fractured my toe tripping over the gazillion toys that were strewn about the floor, after repeated “Put your things away after you are done playing”…so I told the boys, the next time I had to ask them more than two times to clean up after themselves, whatever was on the floor, would be in the trash. And low and behold, not a day later, same thing…legos, hotwheels cars, stuffed animals…everything all over the place. So I quietly scooped in all into a Hefty garbage bag and took out to garage. They went hysterical..I’m sure you could hear them crying down the block. Even my husband was like “Ab bas hogaya na..you made your point…ayendaa nahi karengay” laikin I knew that if I did not follow through with the consequence, they wouldn’t learn. So I let them think that I threw there toys away, when I actually donated them to Goodwill. And believe me, it wasn’t even that much…issay kay gunna zyada unkay closets may bhara para tha.
Since that day, Ammar is like a drill sergeant with his brothers…“You **KNOW **mama means it guys! She will throw our toys away if we don’t clean up!”
So again, while I don’t agree with this father’s shooting up a laptop, I don’t think he meant to be violent or abusive. Maybe he was trying to teach his daughter respect of elders and material possesions in his own convaluted way.
Anyhoo…I didn’t mean to hurt any feelings with my “Epic” and “hahaha” comments at the beginning of this [EMAIL=“thread…@Gaia”]thread… @Gaia, @Milly…I wub you guys mucho, and don’t want to downplay or make light of your views. 
Re: Dad uses facebook to teach daughter a lesson
I wonder how many parents actually check their kids FB/Twitter accounts. There is some horrendous stuff that "masoom" bachay write about their parents ....
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^^ This is what parents need to start doing so the kids aren't being disrespectful from the get go.
The girl is where she is today because her parents didn't follow through on the disciplining part and now he had to take some extreme measures. Kids will be kids you gotta learn to be a parent.
In our day, it wasn't ok to talk about what your parents did to you? And nowadays everything is shared publicly and announced on facebook or twitter?
Maar pithai was never ever mentioned because it would be embarassing for us, how did kids turn the table on parents?
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I see what you are saying and I agree. I have seen such parents too.
But again, I cant judge this man based on this only.
I shall be quiet now, because I keep repeating myself and you all talk in fine english, and I feel as I am not getting my message across rightly with my second hand english =/
I find it very easy to judge this man as I spent 18 years living with a very similar natured man.
I understand your point completely, I just don't agree with it and I mean that in the nicest possible way. I always mean it nicely when I don't end it with a patronising smile. Hehe.
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This guy is the man. That should teach the spoilt brat/
I think he did it more for himself than her!! What happened to good old-fashioned communication sans uploading youtube video or facebook statuses?