Re: Dad chooses extended family…
I’m not trying to deny them anything. When I see them, I give them kisses etc.
its not them I have issues with.
Its my dad who chooses to revolve his life and weekends around them, not us.
If you read my birthday meal example in a previous post. How would you feel if you dad chose not to go to your birthday meal because your cousins were coming but when it came to your cousins, he’d happily go along?
We’ve had to come back from weddings, not allowed to go anywhere etc because they are coming and need food etc.
I do resent the situation, as for 9 years my weekends have revolved around them.
e.g. I had to miss my Christmas party which I paid for because my dad needed to go somewhere and no one was at home to look after them, even though it was my dad who accepted to look after them.
Their mum won’t allow us to come to their house.
If my dad treated us the same, there’d be no issue or didn’t allow us to be walked over.
Oh yeah, we also have to hold the birthday parties at our house. Their mum doesn’t help or anything but me and my mum have to cook and clean.