Re: Dad chooses extended family…
She doesn’t allow us in their home because she likes to drink etc, which I understand. Even when we have gone over, she’s hostile. My parents don’t like going over there.
However it is unfair on my mum to run around after her. She’s brought her family over, her friends over etc because she knows islamically my mum has to cater for them.
The fact that she won’t do the kids birthday parties at their house but they have to be held at our house without her touching a finger.
I just feel sorry for my mum. She didn’t ask for this or to be a slave.
She also doesn’t like my dad as she doesn’t like how a Pakistani man dominates a woman, but happily allow my mum to run around after her.
When she does come over, she wears low cut tops, shows her legs. We live in a Pakistani area near a mosque. It’s just embarrassing.
She once told me to take off my tights because I really won’t go to hell,
I don’t care what my cousins do to be honest. They’ve invited me over to their step daughters prom and they were all drinking alcohol. I choose to back away because Islam is important to me and my uncle and his wife don’t respect that.
All this never used to bother me, however when my dad started forcing me to stay home, coming backing early from weddings, cancelling my birthday party etc. It’s just getting to me.
You know you can dislike family members. You don’t have to get on with everyone. I just feel like our life revolves around them.