Cyber bullying

It has come to my attention that kids are now taking bullying to a whole new level… bringing real life animosities into the cyber world and saying all the things they’d never have the guts to actually say in real life while hiding behind new usernames unknown to anyone else besides those involved in the bully gang.. They usually form groups, all bullies making new usernames and send abusive emails to their targets and make threats of beatdowns and other horrible things.

Someone I know is only in the third grade and has received several such bullying emails telling her to watch her back, others cursing her out, some even going so far as to say they are going to inflict physical harm on her. The most shocking thing I heard was a threat of putting poison in lunchfood while the victim isnt looking. Now we all know that thats not really possible, but when young kids are faced with these kinds of bullies, they think anything is possible.

What are the steps we can take to ensure that children are protected against such bullies.. and what can parents do with the proper authorities in school to catch the people behind the usernames and mete out punishments to those who are in the wrong?

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Oh my goodness. Yet another thing to worry about.

Right now I know all the kids in my daughter's class and their parents so we can keep track. But in bigger classes, it would become harder... so I think I would... well..I don't know what I should do.

Waiting for more answers.

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My main concern is that the schools might not even want to get involved, saying that this is a problem that has occurred offsite/offcampus and that parents need to deal with this sorta behavior by talking to the parents of other kids. But that really shouldnt even be an issue because these offsite actions are threatening the wellbeing of the child while at school... right?

Zabardast question Riya. Shuk Riya for starting this thread. It's common in here.

First we have to find out Why and who become bullies nishana.

How to deal themselves?

How parents would deal?

Bullies hamaisha kamzor aur seedhay sadhay, masoom, khamosh ya bewaqoof buchchon ko apna nishana banatay hain. Kuwah wo jismani tor per kumzor buchchay hon ya quiet buchchay hon.

Apnay buchchon ko train karain kay wo outspoken hon naheen to kum uz kum apni takleef aur shikayat ki school main teacher, principal aur ghar main parents say bata sakain aur batain. Baaz buchchay ghar main bhi batanay say dartay hain.

Apnay buchchon ko apna dost banain. Apni her mushkil ko share karnay ka sikhain parents say.

Teacher ko aur Prinicipal ko batanay ka sikhain kisi bhi tarha ki bullies ka nishana bunnay ki soorat main.

Kisi bhi qism ki email ko teachar aor Principal ko forward kar dain jo dhumki amoz hon aur khud bhi save kar kay rakhlain agar Police ko dikhanay ki zaroorat paray to.

Buchchay ka email address doosra bunwa dain aur us ko use karna chor dain. Baaz buchchay sirf fun kay liaay bhi is tarha kay email bhaij saktay hain sirf daranay aur satanay kay liaay masoom buchchon ko.

Buchchay say kahain sirf apnay khaas khaas aur qabil e aitabar doston ko hi apna email address dain. Aur sub ko mana kar dain yani jinko jinko email address dain kay kisi ko bhi mera email na dain.

Ho sakay to kuch din buchchon ka email use karna hi band karwa dain.

Buchchon ko kahain confident rahain bahar aur school main.

Darnay ki bhi koi zaroorat naheen hai Allah her waqt saath hota hai hifazat kay liay laikin ahtiaat bhi karain bullies say door rahain chahay wo school yaard ho ya ghar anay janay ka rasta.

Aur buchchon say dosti kar lain jo aap kay ghar tuk ya ghar kay qareeb tuk atay hon yani aik group bana lain takay atay jatay rastay main akelay na hon balkay group ho saath main.

Is main parents bhi help ker saktay hain apnay buchchon ki. Is tarha kay parents aur buchchon say khud baat karain kay saath aya jaya karain aik time fix kar lain. Is kay liaay thori dosti barhani ho gi. Tohfay tahaif denay hon gay. Unkay kaam ana ho ga.

Luch ka mamla jahan tuk hai to school bag main ahtiaat kay tor pay tala laganay ka day dain aur chabhi bhi day dain jo galay main latakta ho.

Kisi qism ki bully ki choti say choti herkat ka nishana bunnay ki soorat main na sirf buchcha khud teacher aur principal ko shikayat karay balkay parents bhi shikayat karain.

Buchchon ko sikha dain kay bullies say buch kar rahain aur udhar bilkul na phatkay jidhar bullies hotay hain.

Mera khiaal hai itna kafi hai.

Saath main Allah say hifazat ki dua kartay rahain khud bhi aur buchchon ko bhi sikhaain. Aur parents khud bhi unki hifazat ki dua kartay rahain jub tuk school main buchchay hon.

Ghar say nikaltay waqt Allah Hafiz ya salam poora kahay baghair buchchon ko na janay dain khud bhi kahain aur buchchon say bhi kahalwain.

Yay dua kia karain Allah say Allah main nain apnay buchchay ko teri hifazat main dia tu hi issay khairiaat say lay jat aur khairiaat say wapis ghar lana. Main apnay buchchay ko Allah teray hawalay karti/karta hoon so is ki hifazat karna.

Insha Allah kuch naheen ho ga.

Yeah I know that. They do this so you have to deal with yourself.

Teach your kid wait when they go away aur go quickly before they get there.

Avaoid them and not to come close to them. Leave the place when they come close to them.

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Restrict access to internet, i don't see why a 3rd grader or even a 5th grader needs to have an e-mail ID. Let them use your own, if they have to contact family members.

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I agree Iconoclast. That is too younge to have her own email ID.

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In most schools the administratin will take it very seriously. There are actually speakers and workshops for parents and kids. There are also very serious school consequences for this type of behavior (at least that has been the case at my school and others in the area). I do think you should take action. I expect this kind of thing at 12-13. In 3rd grade it's even harder to deal with.

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Yes Sahar where bullying is out of control or some staff or some school take care of bullying but most school want to stay away. Sometimes I found when it comes to Muslims teacher don't care even some kid in kindergarten something does wrong. So you have to teach your kid how to deal with thos bully.

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^ I'm a Muslim teacher. I care.

Plus, there are very serious legal consequences if you don't take action in a report. Get everything in writing. And don't settle for the first response.