During my trip to Pakistan I met a family with 6 children. All 3 of the sons were married as were 2 of the daughter. Now the sons are all in their 30’s/early 40’s and the STILL sponge of their fathers hard earned cash. They do all work, but earn barely enough to cover the expenses of their own children, never mind helping out with bills etc. It’s not that they can’t earn more money, they’re just too lazy to put the effort in and do it. And since their father works like a dog and STILL supports them they don’t feel the need to work harder.
I found it quite…disturbing to be honest.
Thoughts? When should a son/daughter start earning money to cover their own expenses? And should they be forced to help out with household expenses if they’re still living at home before marriage/in a joint family system after marriage (regardless of however high/low the parents income is)?
its their personal issue … u worrry abt ur family …
decent families wont do it … coz its nt in our culrure … ya if a family who isnt financially sound then this might b an option …
the right age is 20 plus , after completing ur education ,u shd start with a decent job
Unfortunately Ive seen that loooads in my area when I go back to pak… To be honest those parents teach those ‘offspring’ of theirs bad habits by not forcing them to be independent.
I would happily support my child up until they have completed their education and are in a stable job. That could be GCSE’s (I hope not) or their degree.. (Maybe a masters if im feeling nice)
But I would always inshAllah aim to have them outa the house and looking for part time work at the very least, from the age of 16… Currently Im trying to get my little bro a job and im on his case (he’s 16)
I think its important to get them into the habit of earning themselves to teach them the value of money and it gives them a little responsibility
If you really want to toughen them up and teach them to stand on their own two feet, then cut them off early. Like at five. Okay, fine, I’ll be liberal, make it 12.
Seriously, it would depend on the individual child.
That really depends. I guess in most cases, you could say when your child starts his career. Although I probably wouldn’t mind giving my kids a head-start by helping them out and all in whatever way. I’m old-school like that.
