Re: Custody of Child
excuse me, lets not throw around statistics just like that.
Kids who grow to be violent and were raised in a single family home by mom are not becoming violent because mom can't control them, and for some weird reason men have that ability to discipline. I've seen lots of moms who are very strict disciplinarians and it would make sense from a Pakistani traditionalist perspective which people like Hareem endorse, since women are "meant to stay at home". I mean, if you can't discipline your child, and you can't work to provide for your family, then you're a pretty useless bag of flesh as far as I'm concerned.
Children raised in single family homes are exposed to other factors in the west: like ghetto neighborhoods with poor law control, less governmental influence and financial support, poorly paid teachers and poorly constructed and financed school programs, street gangs, negative pop culture and fashion, and negative peer and adult influences in the community.
Take a child and have mom raise it in an affluent neighborhood and mom is healthy and sound and the neighborhood and schools and people are healthy and sound, and you wont get a violent kid, more than likely.
Its not task oriented approach. We are talking family here, you do what you can do best.
Kids are born with different chemistry, You could do your best to raise them in best way. One can be only held accountable if she is not doing her best according her abilities.
If things go right with kids/family we should never for get to thank God for that.
But It cannot be guaranteed.
One of my nephew is hyper active child. We kept thinking is doesn't care about so many things , and he wants to fight and stuff.
Then One day in a market I saw a book about hyperactive kids, I bought it. I was surprised to read symptoms it was as some one was describing my nephew.
I told by sis in law how to deal with him.
One of my cousin borrowed that book to understand her child too.
My point is if I couldn't have found the book, would it be my sister in law fault?