Do curfews really keep teens out of trouble?
Is it necessary to have house rules such as this to prevent teens from getting out of control?
How effective is a curfew though and why not just trust them?
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Im the ONLY one who had a curfew? 
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^looks like it :-p
I grew up in Pakistan and wasn't allowed to go to any friend's house alone.. I would either have my mom or older sister accompany me and if my sister and I were out then maghrib was teh limit.. had to be home before it got dark!!
Then I moved here for college and never had any curfews per se but I used to call my mom every time I left campus whether it was for dinner, movie, etc.. just to be on the safe side!!
I think I raised myself and learned from my own mistakes :D
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I grew up in Pakistan and wasn't allowed to go to any friend's house alone.. I would either have my mom or older sister accompany me and if my sister and I were out then maghrib was teh limit.. had to be home before it got dark!!
Whoa that sucks.
I didn't really have an exact curfew, it was just understood that I couldn't stay out too late. And I had to let my parents know before going out of the house. Living away from home during uni was a blast though, total freedom for the first time in my life.
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Whoa that sucks.
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why??? I never felt the need to go to the friends hosue alone anyway!! I think it was appropriate and I dun think I have missed anything due to that!!
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Oh so you were okay with that? Never mind then. For me it would've been pretty embarrassing to have my mum tag along to my friend's house!
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**i don't like the word CURFEW. kids do not become bad overnight. if u invest ur time in ur own kids, i'm sure, the rules will be ingrained in them and they'll know their limits. curfew are something kids love to violate, it becomes their challenge...they resent it and feel its not fair. i believe in investing ur time in ur kids training and grooming them from Day1.
i never had curfew on me coz i lived in a village where it was safe. i used to spend ALL night outside the house almost all summer and did very naughty things but never did anything that was outright illegal or immoral. we were "sharaartii #1" lol
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Lol dont worry, you’re not!
I still have a curfew .. like jesus christ I am 25!!! lol
Before - had to be home before dark! and in winter times it is dark around 4 pm so you can imagine. My mum was never in favor of letting us visit friends at home nor did she like mall trips too much.
Now - Uni days the curfew is around 8 pm. She sort of expect the classes to be over by then and we should be home. For parties it is a bit different now. Still she is not in favor of visiting friends or frequent mall trips, but she has learned to live with it now, though me and my sibling try to limit visiting friends home.
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^looks like it :-p
Then I moved here for college and never had any curfews per se but I used to call my mom every time I left campus whether it was for dinner, movie, etc.. just to be on the safe side!!
That is me!
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Do curfews really keep teens out of trouble?
Not always, they just misbehave before their curfew time
Is it necessary to have house rules such as this to prevent teens from getting out of control?
Yes, I think rules are essential, after you are never truly free, you have to abide by the rules of your religion, government etc so rules at home help you prepare you for the real world.
How effective is a curfew though and why not just trust them?
You can have all the rules in the world but if you don't raise your children well, they will never make the right choices whether they have a curfew or not.
My curfew varied, I was never allowed to hang around on the streets but I could be at a friends house till quite late and my dad would come and collect me, one thing I really respect my parents for is not letting my brothers roam the streets, we all had the same curfews. I used to see so many guys roaming around but all the daughters seemed to be locked away which I though was unfair. Also our house was massive and on the 1st and 2nd floor there were fire exits in 2 of the bedrooms, I had a fire door in my room so I could have sneaked out at anytime but I never ever did.
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I think a lot of times curfews are placed for safety reasons, the wrong kind of people are out and about at night so you're just exposing your kids to more risk. The other thing people use curfews on weekdays etc, so make sure you're back home and well rested for the next day at school and give sufficient time to your homework etc. I wasn't allowed out on weekdays unless there was something special going on and on weekends I did have a curfew till like midnight usually unless my mum knew I was at someones house and then I could stay longer.
I think curfews are a good idea, other than to keep your kids out of trouble they provide kids with discipline.
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They had the opposite effect on me, when mine was 1am I used to make a point of coming in at least 2/3 hours late.. when my parents gave up on it the novelty of winding them up wore off and I started behaving myself a lot more..
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You're quite the rebel aren't you?
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You're quite the rebel aren't you?
What a badass 'eh?
The pieces are coming together!
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^Pieces of what? Dunno what ur problem is always picking at my posts.. Haven't u got anything better to do?
Staying out late is hardly unusual (and if Rizla's referring to the other thing that was mentioned in F+B that's hardly a big deal either, unless ur really backward)..
I was just pointing out that not all kids respond well to strict discipline.. no doubt u will jump on that as well..
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What else would I want to do? I’m Vailah :hinna:
Curfews are hardly strict. Any sensible parent will have those. And I’m pretty sure for one rebel like you, there’s thousands of children who understood their parents and their concerns. Just saying is all.
/argumentmode
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*^Well it depends what time the curfew is set at, doesn't it (see, we can all twist and pick at words like you)..
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I knew a lot of desi girls who weren't allowed out after maghrib which is ridiculously early in the UK during winter.. Practically straight after getting home from college for an 17/18yr-old..
And regarding 'concerns' my mum's problem with me staying out wasn't about safety (I live in an area where nothing crime-related ever really happens and I drive everywhere, no need to hang around train stations or wait around in the cold for taxis), she was more worried about me being with a guy and as she had double-standards regarding this (brother was allowed to stay out despite being slightly younger) I wanted to push her buttons to wind her up.. Something that parents should expect if they act in a way that's unfair..
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Yes, I did. The funniest thing is my mom would threaten to put the inside chain lock on the door if I don't come home by curfew and she would NOT open it! There were a few times that I broke curfew and she kept it locked so I couldn't get in. I basically had to beg her to open the chain lock at like 3 in the morning and I lived in a building! Ahhhhh, yes it worked. Everytime she did that I would go back to obeying curfew for like another 6 months. I wouldn't say it totally kept me out of trouble, but it certainly instilled a fear of my mom in me so it made me less likely to get involved in wrong activities and stay out too late. Kids need to still have a fear of authority. If they aren't scared of their parents, even a little, then there's no saying what they will do.