Agar ik larki ki shadi nahin ho rahi hai tou baqi behnoun ki be nahin ho gi jub tak pehli ki nahin hoti hai, yani kay ik ki ho gi phir dosri wali ki ho gi
What can the pehli do? What should the parents do? Or log kiya bolain gay? Agar dosri ki ho gaye or pehli ki nahin, log kiya bolain gaye?
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If you start thinking about what log will say, you'll never get anything done.
Do as your circumstances dictate.
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Silly philosophy.... my younger sister got married first, me later..... it does not make any difference when there are decent, sane people involved.
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Silly philosophy.... my younger sister got married first, me later..... it does not make any difference when there are decent, sane people involved.
You know such people don't exist..right?
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If you start thinking about what log will say, you'll never get anything done. Do as your circumstances dictate.
So true.
It is idiotic to sit around and wait for the elder to get married. Sure, she should start the process first, but if a younger sis finds a good partner and is ready, her life should not be put on hold, nor should the weight of the unmarried sisters be placed on the elder.
There is not just one life path that is successful. Not everything has to be done in one specific order to yield happiness. Trying to conform is often what leads to the unhappiest of lives.
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If you start thinking about what log will say, you'll never get anything done. Do as your circumstances dictate.
So true.
It is idiotic to sit around and wait for the elder to get married. Sure, she should start the process first, but if a younger sis finds a good partner and is ready, her life should not be put on hold, nor should the weight of the unmarried sisters be placed on the elder.
There is not just one life path that is successful. Not everything has to be done in one specific order to yield happiness. Trying to conform is often what leads to the unhappiest of lives.
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Kya kahengay? Ke apke andar koi kami hai isliye choti behnon ki shaadi pehle hogayi? Is baat ka darr hai apko?
My younger sisters got married before me. Its just the way it worked out and I cannot say I was unhappy with it. I was not ready for marriage and it was a relief to see them happy in their own lives versus waiting for me.
Aap kisi ka moon band nahin karsakti ho. In the beginning, I sat there and listened to all the aunti lectures of how I should stop being so picky and how selfish I am to let my parents worry about me in their old age. I even had one aunti tell me ke mera ego hadd se zyada bara hai. 
I listened and listened and listened and then got sick of it. Being single is apparently a disease that needs to be cured immediately by heavy dosages of marriage and children.
If you want to be me…you tell them horror stories of girls getting married too fast and dont they want me to be happy when I get married?
If you want to be tactful you say “bass aap dua karein”
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You know such people don't exist..right?
Yes they do, otherwise I wouldn't be married :)
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easy to say ladies. but once the younger one gets married before the older one, people assume themselves that barey ki shaadi nai ho rahi...she's out of their mind..and already some alien species. or somethings wrong with her
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^exactly.......people always assume something's wrong with the older one
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Those people will talk regardless, if one daughter is unmarried or four.
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umm .. if first sister doesn't get married fast then... and lets a rishta comes for the younger one ... Then i think they should consider that and marry the 2nd one .. i mean why should all the other sisters wait only cuz the older ones not married yet..and it's plainly stupid .. so yea lol