Cultural differences and marriage couseling.

Lifestyle Relationships
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After reading TLK’s post in this thread :
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/541883-marriage-counseling.html
I would like to know what cultural difference a non desi marriage counselor should know in order to advise the couple properly.

I can think of a few:

  1. Wife needs to worship husband and his family.
  2. Husband is always right.
  3. Wife is not supposed to give birth to daughters only.
  4. When a husband comes home there should be warm dinner at the table and a pair of hawai chappal ready for him to take off his boots and wear those hawai chappal.

Please add to the list, it will help in writing the next best seller book.

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ideal life of desi husband

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1) not her family... his family

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Corrected.

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HIS mother is never wrong about anything.

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When husband and wife are going through a rough patch , it is everybody's business, they all have to be listened to and followed through.

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If wife is not getting pregnant, everyone automatically assumes that the medical issue is with the wife.

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:smack:

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What happened ?

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MIL: my son is trying to make you happy, but you are na shukri. :@:

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you guys make my ser dardofy.

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app ignorifying kijing.

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bilkul.
… woh bechara subah ka jaata hai aur raat gaye ghar aata hai… ab iss say zaida aur woh tumhara liye kya karay? :rolleyes:

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In terms of the points mentioned in the OP is that even real anymore? Does anyone even live like that in today's day and age?

I could imagine someone doing that in some rural Pakistani village , but do modern educated people really do that or demand those kinds of things from their wives? That's *edit*up if they do.

My brother myself, my cousins, other guys I know , I don't know anyone who is like that. Even my dad and uncles are not like that.

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:confused:

Not sure if you are serious here or merely joking. Only last sentence really makes it look like it maybe a joke. So fine!

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Wife should sar dabaying when husband is browsing the internet or watching a game on Cable? ;)

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It does happen here in the UK.. Quite depressing really..

Non-desi counsellors do know this stuff nowadays but if someone feels uncomfortable seeing them there are plenty of Pakistan/Indian/Bangladeshi ones around..

I would add generally more stigma in the event of divorce, complications within the extended family if the couple are cousins etc. to that list :(

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^ In the UK, Pakistanis tend to stick to their own communities. So, someone that comes from some random village in Pk, will probably not be exposed to anything different when in the UK. It tends to continue over loads of generations.