Would you ever marry someone from different Culture?
Marrying someone from a different culture will destroy the marriage due to cultural differences?What do you think?
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Yeah it does destroy the marriage, They dont have understandings different cultures. My mum is english and my dad is pakistani, Oh my.... They clash *so *much because of the culture difference. My mum used to be able to mix in with the culture and try her best. But now shes given up because she just cant. And i dont blame her because its not hers, its hard to adapt tbh.
I cant explain how difficult it is trying to mingle in both cultures.
Its a big clash, a big mistake and i dont reccommend it to anyone!
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^u katrina kaif?
Why do ppl generalize everything? I know lots of couples from different backgrounds and they seem to be doing pretty well.
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i agree with huma ... i've seen some couple like that where this worked ... specially this somali frnd of mine who married a white grl... they're realllyyyyyhappy together
It can only work If both sides are understanding and ready to put in some effort. If it only comes from one side then ofcourse chances are great that it won't work out great.
Yeah it does destroy the marriage, They dont have understandings different cultures. My mum is english and my dad is pakistani, Oh my.... They clash *so *much because of the culture difference. My mum used to be able to mix in with the culture and try her best. But now shes given up because she just cant. And i dont blame her because its not hers, its hard to adapt tbh. I cant explain how difficult it is trying to mingle in both cultures. Its a big clash, a big mistake and i dont reccommend it to anyone!
What about your dad though? Why is it that your mom had to try to mix in with the culture and "do her best", eventhough it's her country that she's living in where her culture is "practiced"?
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I am contemplating that. A difficult question, indeed.
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First hand experience, vast majority of marital problems are not culture-specific. They're just human-specific. Can't hide from them in any race/culture.
Loads of people around me have mixed race/culture marriages.
Works out pretty great as neither person's background is favoured over the other because their main strength is that they agree that when in conflict, Islamic concepts should override. And can't argue with that, eh! :) Alhamdulillah.
Quite common amongst young 'practicing' Muslims in London these days.
It can only work If both sides are understanding and ready to put in some effort. If it only comes from one side then ofcourse chances are great that it won't work out great.
What about your dad though? Why is it that your mom had to try to mix in with the culture and "do her best", eventhough it's her country that she's living in where her culture is "practiced"?
Because when my mum first met my dad he told her str8 up this is how i am and this is how i want my kids to be etc. She accepted it. And shes been more pakistani than pakistani themselves, But jealous people butt their noses in and ruin things. But yeah majority of mixed relationships i've seen have ended in disastor. And the ones that are actually working are the ones that the pakistani guy has adapted the english culture therefore the kids being more english than pakistani. Where as my dad wanted us to be more pakistani than english, But it doenst work like that, he understands now that he shudnt of forced the culture on to us. Because it made me rebel it, but now we jus accept it. Also i know a few relationships where pakistani man and english woman r happy, but again its because he adpated the english culture but he has a pakistani family too. So doesnt matter how the mixed race children turn out, because he has his pakistani family.
Well, my brother is happily married to a white girl, they have 3 kids, masha'Allah. I think if one wants to make it work, they well. My SIL doesn't always fit in, but then again that happens to everyone. We fit in to some places and other we don't. She always makes an effort and I believe that she tries to make that effort not only because she wants to but also because she knows its important to my brother.
Would you ever marry someone from different Culture? Marrying someone from a different culture will destroy the marriage due to cultural differences?What do you think?
They say never say never but still yah i would not like to get married into a diff culture. As it is, marriage is a tough job and i dont think of myself as a very adaptable person so i wouldnt want to complicate it further. No offence to other cultures, but i do need my own people, my own customs around me to feel comfortable.
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I dont think i ever considered marrying a non-desi. i just like brown guys.
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It is a lot of work from both sides, so if both accept it then why not?
For some working on cultural difference daily is not acceptable.
When couple get older, and has children, more work is needed. People become more rigid when older. One partner tries to pull kids one way and other, the other way. Children grow up with mixed and confused feelings. Men usually lose since children are more close to mother at early age.
Exceptions do occur!
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We're very happy together in our mixed culture marriage. 11 years and counting. Cultural differences are not necessarily a problem - they actually can enrich your life tremendously. the differenecs that we've ever came to arguing over never had to do with anything cultural.
oops, actually we did have it out once lol, over an unwanted guest!! But I think this goes for any desi-desi couple too yeah?
Would you ever marry someone from different Culture? Marrying someone from a different culture will destroy the marriage due to cultural differences?What do you think?
It depends on many factors. If both parties are happy to get married and accept both cultures as well as the fact not all parts of both cultures will be used/accepted by their off-spring they should be fine.
I'd say both people would also need to be super strong willed-in terms of knowing what they what etc.
Personally, I didn't want to get into a mix culture relationship but only because I wanted to carry on a tie and love for my native land, nothing else. Marrying someone of say another background of culture would of meant devouting 50% of the energy to that side of their heritage which wouldn't have interested me.
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Actually, im jus saying it wudnt work because of what i've seen. The complications, the lack of understanding. However My uncle also married a white woman they are very happy indeed mashallah, 3 beautiful absoloutly gorjus children mashallah, Howevr my uncle is quite into the western culture himself, so maybe thats the reason? i dunno
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^ That does make a big difference MB. It's the same with my uncle, and also him and his wife are very happy. Personally I think it all comes down to compromising, it just depends which one of the two is willing to compromise more than the other.
Actually, im jus saying it wudnt work because of what i've seen. The complications, the lack of understanding. However My uncle also married a white woman they are very happy indeed mashallah, 3 beautiful absoloutly gorjus children mashallah, Howevr my uncle is quite into the western culture himself, so maybe thats the reason? i dunno
I dont know. I know a couple like that, where the guy is more into western culture than eastern, yet their relationship didnt' work out for various reasons.
When it comes down to it, the success or failure of a marriage isn't driven by their cultures or even religions, but rather the two individuals involved in the marriage.
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Quite common amongst young 'practicing' Muslims in London these days.
One of my friends has a theory about this.
'If you wear the hijab or have a beard, you can marry anything you want. Its all Moslem.'