I am not a mother yet and I dont think I will be anytime soon. But I wanted to ask about providing your children with cultural and religious education, particularly kids who have parents that belong to different ethnicities and religion. Have you come across mixed families, say muslim and a non muslim spouse, where the kids are being raised with values from both cultural backgrounds? I know many households dont really bother focusing on this aspect, and thats fine. Im asking specifically about households that are mixed.
From what you guys have seen;
Is it difficult to strike a balance?
Will the kids always be of one culture more than the other?
Thanks! 
Re: Cultural and Religious Education in the West
It’s tough striking a balance even if you’re both desi because there will always be a comparison to “white” culture if you live in the West.
However, I think/hope it’s do-able… I do believe though that you have to set your priorities and pick your battles. I’m in a mixed race marriage, I grew up outside Pakistan primarily, and religion is more important to me than culture. My aim is to raise kids who will inshallah have a strong relationship with God but I’m not militant about following typical Pakistani cultural things like wearing shalwar kameez or only marrying Pakistanis (obvs ;)), as many parents I know are (nothing wrong with that but it’s not a priority for me). Yes, I do speak to my kid in Urdu because it was important to me that he can communicate with grandparents and family back home, but that’s about it. Only time will tell which side he identifies more with.
Re: Cultural and Religious Education in the West
We are a mixed family and we are raising our kids in the church I few up in. While this was hard at first for my husbands extended family, it has largely been accepted.
Culture and language just isn’t a big deal with my husband. I try to push it, but kinda hard when I have no idea about Urdu.
We have several friends in mixed relationships and they all have a different balance. I would say it really is dependent on how much effort the desi parent is willing to put in to maintain culture. Also, I think it is also dependent on how western the extended family is. We don’t have a single relative who doesn’t speak fairly good English. So, while I would love my kids to speak as many languages as possible- there is no big need.