*inspired by a shaadi as seen on Raj TV (see thread http://www.paklinks.com/gs/showthread.php?t=228399) *
So brides are socially allowed to cry on their wedding day. Noone will make a fuss out of it, and sometimes they are even expected to cry.
But what about crying grooms?
What’s the verdict of Life1-posters on crying grooms?
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second question coming to mind is towards the 'enlightened' female posters of Life1: what would you do if your hubby would cry during the wedding?
(on the other hand, he will have the rest of his remaining life to cry, but nevertheless)
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The hubby has no valid reason to cry during the wedding unless he is a sappy old fool in which case I won;t be marrying him to begin with.
i’ll give him enough reasons after the wedding though 
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:o
and what are valid reasons for the bride to cry (keeping in mind the social dynamics of nowadays?)
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Most of the times a bride cries is cos she will moving away from her family and that still applies to most desis where even if daughters are independent/working women they still live with their parents.
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^but moving away doesn't mean you won't be seeing them. Nowadays, you are virtually 'contactable' 24 hours a day.
Of course, 30 years back, if you moved out, it meant you would be contacting your family only once in 6 months. So why would brides still be crying?
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a wedding day is suppose to be filled with happiness and new begininngs. crying is just silly nowadays...back in the day was a different story perhaps.
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Of course, 30 years back, if you moved out, it meant you would be contacting your family only once in 6 months. So why would brides still be crying?
exactly!
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the guys usually cry when they see the girl and her whole family crying…the poor guy probably feels guilty that its his fault.
nowadays I dont really see the reason for crying. I mean the “modern” girl and guy would probably both move out of the parents house…so either they should both cry or none of them should:snooty:
p.s. Im not a “modern” girl…and I dont know if I will cry…I dont think I will…but everyone says I will see when the time comes:bummer:
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That doesn;t matter Nescio. The fact is that u r moving out of a place and away from people you have strong emotional ties with. You are correct that one is virtually contactable 24 hours a day but virtual contact is still not the same deal until adjustmens are made.
you question was why its ok for girls to cry and not guys, well guys are only bringing in a person to their homes, they aren;t leaving anything behind so they have no reason to cry, girls are practically leaving their whole life behind and moving to a new place, a new start which comes with some sentimentality..
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I don;t agree to that. I have yet to see a guy who gets himself his own place just cos he is getting married. Those who have to move out of the parents house do it for themselves prior to getting married.
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hmmm…makes sense. So you’re saying that more than the physical separation, it’s the emotion of starting afresh, leaving your past behind etc etc? But this emotional argument also holds for the groom, right? (perhaps to a lesser degree but still) So a groom should be allowed to cry a little bit too?
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bride cries on wedding day, groom cries every day after that :)
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The only reason i can think why a guy would cry is if it's a forced/arranged marriage by his parents...but then he is a bigger wuss for not standing up for himself.
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Doesn’t matter how close/how often u see them, you’re still leaving thier home and going into your own home…its a hugeeeeeeeee change in ones life and its very immature to say its not and that htey have no right to cry..persoanlly ill just go by mood, i might cry i might nto cry. WHat i hate is that brides are expcted to be khamosh, like they’re just a centerpiece, wiht no thought or emotion or anything.
I dunno why teh guy would be crying, I think he’d be 
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No nescio its all of the above.
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crying grooms???impossible…rona bride ka kaam hai 
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the funniest is during the rukhsati when the bride is crying and walking with her parents/family and everyone is hugging her and stuff, is watching the groom walking 10 feet behind then, and no one giving a rat's arss about him...lol....
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Sara and Femme: OK, I agree with you that a girl has more reasons to cry than the boy. But does that mean the groom cannot cry at all....or does he too have some reasons to cry. So for example, not the physical separation, but can he cry for example that he is going to leave behind his past and enter an emotionally new life? Come on, boys have feelings too, you know :D
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Something related to all this…
there is this family we know, who have one son after 3 daughters. SO yes he is pampered and all but to the point that u would think he was gay-very girly boy. He is probably reaching his mid twenties now and he likes his mummy to feed him after his all his sisters got married, earlier he would have his sisters feed him. We were invited to someone place where they had a segregated setting yet he was the only guy sitting amongst the ladies and come dinner time he dragged his chair in front of his mother so she would feed him the food. So anyway when his sister got married the boy was literally wailing, crying soooo bad that the groom blurted out ‘don;t worry mein inka bhaiyon ki tarha khayaal rakhoon ga’ 