asak
i have heard that if you cry for someone who passed away, then it brings pain to their soul…
if you pray for them it brings comfort but if you cry it brings pain…?
is that true?
jazakallah
Irem, check your Private Messages Box. kh
haan irem dont cry for a loved one who has died, i mean cry if u injure yur foot, cry if u get cut, cry if see someone else in pain, cry if u fail yur exams, cry if yur not rich, cry for every other reason, but when a loved one dies its wrong to cry.
Irem jee OFF COURSE u can cry when someone dies, if u dont then theres something wrong! THe prophet saw even cried at the jinaza of a munafiqeen. Now sub kehn SUBHANALLAH
irem its natural to cry...before Prophet Mohummad (pbuh) it was considered bad to cry in the arab world....even Prophet (pbuh) cried for his loved ones
history shows that Imam Hussain's (as) son Imam Zainul Abideen (as) cried all His life
jab dil dukhta hai aankh aksh baar ho hi jaati hai
assalamoalikum 
its easier said than done mate, when u care about someone so much and he/she dies i think its pretty hard not to let loose
what's pretty hard and unnatural is continuing to do it at a specific time every year for hundreds of years after.
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what's pretty hard and unnatural is continuing to do it at a specific time every year for hundreds of years after.
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obviously you are speaking for urself
Anas (RA) reported: "The Prophet (SAW) saw a woman crying by the grave of her son, and said to her, 'Fear Allah, and be patient.' She replied, 'What do you care about my tragedy?' When he went away, someone told her, 'Indeed, that was the Messenger of Allah (SAW). ' The woman felt extremely sorry and she immediately went to the Prophet's house, where she did not find any guards. She called out: 'O Messenger of Allah! I did not recognize you.' The Prophet (SAW) said, 'Verily patience is needed at the time of the first affiction'.'' (Bukhari and Muslim)
and yes Irem you are right about causing pain to the soul you cry for. Crying for extended periods of times, and/or crying where the voice is very loud, is haram:
The Prophet (SAW) said, "The deceased who is wailed over is tortured for that wailing." (Bukhari)
The Prophet (SAW) said, "He who slaps the cheeks, tears the clothes and follows the traditions of the Days of Ignorance is not from us." (Bukhari)
Yes you can shed tears without a loud voice thats true.The Prophet (SAW) shed tears, but did NOT cry out in a loud voice.
I hope I answered your question satisfactorily.
Bane.
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what's pretty hard and unnatural is continuing to do it at a specific time every year for hundreds of years after.
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Time doesnt matter... All it takes is love and affection for the person passed away.. and if you know his sacrifices... its natural to cry man.....
Apney apney aqeeday keh baat heh
Bane unless u have the knowledge or the ilm can u please not interpret hadiths.
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what's pretty hard and unnatural is continuing to do it at a specific time every year for hundreds of years after.
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Crying is an extremely pure act.
Obviously u need 2 stop viewing things from your corrupt mind.
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Bane unless u have the knowledge or the ilm can u please not interpret hadiths.
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No im sorry Baba jee .. I will do whatever I want.. And Btw would your holiness please tell me how you surmised I dont have ilm of deen.. Please I want an answer.. And please make it a good one..
Bane.
"I will do watever i want" go for it!
It's totally natural for one to cry when losing a loved one. It's a natural human emotion.
Fret indeed it is, but is it natural to cry in the same manner every year or for everyone involved to say the same words while mourning.
Its institutionalized and standardized mourning that I do not understand.