Crushes :(

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crushes are just suppose to fun, little attraction and nothing serious. but why the heck is it hurting me sooo much…i am literally feeling crushed :frowning:

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It wasn't a crush then....

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oh it was...it was like a 12 year old girl liking sharukh khan. except i get hurt over it

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Are you saying you might be less than 12 years old?

What happened by the way?

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could you give more details about it though? does your crush know you? have you talked with him...what's the cause of the pain?

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lol, no i am not 12. i am 24 years old. i am just comparing my self to above situation because it was almost like having a crush on a tv/film celebrity that you know you will never ever get. who doesn't know you. but i still liked to dream about him only because sigh he is just so amazing. i knew i will never ever get him. then i find out his religious background is not same as mine, and now that hurts me. but it is soooooooooooooo freakin ridiculous because it wasn't like i am gonna get married to him, i just liked thinking about him.

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it looks like unrequited love to me, like you make up this ideal picture of a person you like in your mind without seeing his flaws and of course he has no clue that you have a crush on him and he can never know, which is the painful part

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And it hurts?

A 24 thinking that way enough to feel hurt is unusual. By this time most of emotions like this die and rational thinking does develop.

Do you have enough exposure to adult/mature men or women?

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ha ha ha i knew i am gonna get this. yes diwana, i have enough exposure to adult/mature men and women. it is just none of these men are even close to my perfect ideal. and just because you are 24 (or older) doesn't mean you don't get those silly childish feelings once in a while.

i think it is painful because even though that adult/mature part of my brain knew i am never getting that person, but this stupid childish heart somehow sneak in a hope that i might miraculously get him somehow. but now when i know that his religious background is different, that hope died, and it hurts.

or we can conveniently call all this PMS :p but i don't think they work 3 weeks ahead of their time

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Its alright...go out and have a great time with your girlfriends.

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they are too busy having fun with their boyfriends :p lol, thanks for the reply though.

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your parents aren't looking for any guys for you? who knows maybe mr. right will be one that your parents will pick and then this unrequited crush of yours will be long forgotten along with the pain

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they are along my married friends. but i guess luck isn't on my side in this case. or it is just not the right time yet. plus, i live in the crappiest state of america. which is full of complete losers :S

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yea growing up in america there aren’t too many desi men around as there would be if we lived in pakistan. definitely take it slow and it’s just pain from a tiny crush, it will pass, time heals the biggest of emotional pain so compared to that your pain will hopefully heal soon. don’t rush into relationships or make any rash decisions right now since you’re emotionally down.

relax, pamper yourself, be around people that love you a lot through this tough time. hopefully it won’t last too long and you’ll be back to your happy self :hugz:

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You do know they do make up in movies or TV and teach them what to say how to say.

Anyhow, what I meant is if you had good exposure to adult men and women then the conversation among them should have been enough to know not to even get a crush or if you did, then not to get to the point of feeling 'hurt'.

Most men-women have perfect answer/solutions for these feelings. Something they do privately and get done with. And then they say next!

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i know, that is the problem. girls who are living outside of pakistan have such hard time with this whole shadi issue. even though i might have sound like a very picky person by calling men here losers, and talking about my ideal men, but i am really not that picky (unless saying no to a rishta because they wants to marry you for moving to america count as being picky) i hope it doesn’t take too long either. it sorta get really hard when most of your friend are married/engaged/dating/becoming doctors :stuck_out_tongue: because at time like this when i should be calling one of them for comfort i am here on this forum talking to complete strangers who might be judging my mental conditions (this was for Mr. diwana :D)
thank for the advice nisha, i will try to pamper and relax my self. keep me in your prayers.

what if he is a host/anchor doing a live show :stuck_out_tongue: i don’t think they are scripted as much (and no he is not sahir lodhi :D)

yes i have a good exposure to adult men and women, but the problem is that those men aren’t good enough to be crushed for. and about your second suggestion…it brought me back to the question you asked me first. DO YOU HAVE a good exposure to real men and women? or this private job* of urs makes up for this?

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Damn. I am so sorry I didn't realize you had a crush on me. If I had known I would have definitely dumped that hoochie mama I am seeing right now. Anyway I will call you later after I have achem dumped her...

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Crushes do hurt for the time being. But you are gonna laugh afterwards=)

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y i never had any crush on an actor ??:hmmm: