Crazy weddings

[Decent_6Chora]

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You have have all fun without spending fortune on wedding. Thats what we do. Main attraction in our family is everyone coming together. Staying home for 3-4 days having fun. endless stories etc.

I am totally against throwing lavish parties, having 2k-3k dresses etc and my begum too hates all this. She agreed to even have heavy wedding and valima dress coz my MIL nai baree qasmeen deen theee ro ro ker

[Krypton]

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weddings should be nice, simple, elegant, and memorable. sometimes the amount of money u spend doesn’t really benefit that. and seriously…10 day weddings?

[neha]

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i think if u can afford, u should have all the celebrations let it be 10 days or 20

[Scarface]

@neha

i think if u can afford, u should have all the celebrations let it be 10 days or 20

Yes, but only between husband and wife.

[mama_ki_dua]

@Scarface

I am surprised by some wedding stories on this forum and elsewhere about how people “celebrate” weddings by months of preparations and extravagant spending. In some weddings, family members start organizing dholkis and dance parties months in advance.

It’s a scary thought for me to imagine my own wedding like that

I would never want an extravagant wedding for myself even if I have enough money.
And as for celebration, I would like to celebrate with my wife after the wedding

Why do people celebrate weddings in such a way? The way they spend on weddings. Is it because of lack of entertainment their families have?

And is it true that mostly girls desire this extravagance? Or do men also like it?

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To be honest I dont understand the phenomena behind so many dholkis 2-3 months in advance. Some people have done it in my family and most of these weddings have ended up with divorce. Personally, I wouldn’t want to get a bit carried away with the 3 month in advance dholkis and stuff. A mehndi, nikkah, wedding and reception should be enough. I’d rather have an extravagant mehndi,wedding and reception compared to 3 months of silly meaningless parties.

[Sara516]

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Can someone tell me whats the difference between a mayoun and a mehndi when BOTH events are held in halls with lots of guests and the bride dresses up like a bride?

[BarbieCue]

Almost all wedding planners in India now have contacts with bollywood stars/singers/dancers or whatever… Inviting celebs to your wedding (who don’t know u and don’t really give a damn about ur wedding) is becoming quite common these days… And these celebs, as u can imagine, charge tens of lakhs!

Now THATS gayness!

But if a bride wants a nice lehenga by HSY, thats not gayness, she just wants to look her best on her big day… though religiously speaking, the simpler the better… And I think everyone knows that, so after that, its up to them what they choose to do…

saanu ki :cobra:

[zobia]

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i am one of those people who prefer their weddings to be done in mosque with close friends and family.

i personally dont like months and months preparation of wedding. not only it disturbs your home environment but also i could have charity that money, and go on a world tour.

[Ma_Mooli]

ive seen some simple weddings in our community, and these folks are generally from well off backgrounds.

The mendhi is held a few days/ a week early, but the actual ceremony will take place in a mosque, its generally an open invitation to anyone in the community, but special folks get specific invites. After speeches/recitations/ nikah, the walima is served straight away and it is always the one main dish of biryani with salad. Some have a private cake cutting ceremony/traditions afterwards…and boxed gifts are generally avoided in favour of cash.

I think that is as simple as it gets.

[Scarface]

@BarbieCue

Almost all wedding planners in India now have contacts with bollywood stars/singers/dancers or whatever… Inviting celebs to your wedding (who don’t know u and don’t really give a damn about ur wedding) is becoming quite common these days… And these celebs, as u can imagine, charge tens of lakhs!

These are extreme cases.

The point here is the extravagance, lavishness and long celebrations that have become a norm in weddings. I’m trying to make sense of that.

[Scarface]

@zobia

i am one of those people who prefer their weddings to be done in mosque with close friends and family.

i personally dont like months and months preparation of wedding. not only it disturbs your home environment but also i could have charity that money, and go on a world tour.

@Ma_Mooli

ive seen some simple weddings in our community, and these folks are generally from well off backgrounds.

The mendhi is held a few days/ a week early, but the actual ceremony will take place in a mosque, its generally an open invitation to anyone in the community, but special folks get specific invites. After speeches/recitations/ nikah, the walima is served straight away and it is always the one main dish of biryani with salad. Some have a private cake cutting ceremony/traditions afterwards…and boxed gifts are generally avoided in favour of cash.

I think that is as simple as it gets.

exactly what i like. :k:

[Scarface]

@Sara516

Can someone tell me whats the difference between a mayoun and a mehndi when BOTH events are held in halls with lots of guests and the bride dresses up like a bride?

Everyone wears a different dress on these two occasions. Thats all I know.