I don’t know where to start but I need a lot of informations about cousins marriages.
-Is it mandatory ? Why ? Is it a *gunaah *if someone doesn’t get married to a cousin ?
-Tribe and cast system, how much importance is given to it while getting married ?
I heard some people saying that
Shed some light to it please.
-If your parents don’t allow you to getting married out of your family, then your nikaah won’t be valid. (?) Even more, if your parents told you to not marry outside the family and they passes away, you can’t marry someone who’s not from your family.
-I read this
from here :Arabs question centuries-old tradition of cousin marriages | DAWN.COM
What are the sources of this ?
-If your parents want you to get married in your family and you don’t want to, if you’re not obeying, does it make you less of a muslim, or less of maa-baap ka farmabardaar ? Do you have the right to say NO or not ? What should be the valid reasons to reject a rishta (age-profession-beauty-compatibility-?-)
I want to know each and every aspect of it, that why I asked lots of questions. I would be grateful if you share Quran verses, hadiths,… encouraging and discouraging cousins marriages.
no, it's NOT mandatory/obligatory to marry a cousin...you have a CHOICE to marry whosoever you want...it's your and ONLY your choice to pick whoever your heart and/or mind desire.
However, having said that, you should also respect parents' wishes if you CAN! as long as they do NOT force you to marry someone of their choice, their wishes should also be at least considered.
one important point i would like to make...Allah has allowed you to marry your cousins as well so saying something along the lines that you can NOT marry him because he is more like your brother is WRONG and sinful...you can NOT make a rishta Haraam for yourself when Allah has already made it Halaal for you...you can NOT over-ride/over-rule Allah's decisions.
you may gracefully decline because it's your birth-right to do so! it's your choice but do NOT say that the guy is like your brother so you can't marry him...well, he is NOT your brother...he is naa-maHram to you! :)
JazakAllah Khalil and tlk, having said that, if your parents/other family member pressurize you to accept rishtas whitin the family, and they blackmail you that if you won't accept *badduas *will follow, they would never accept you back. Are they allowed to or not, and who's going to be right/wrong ? If you have always done the most you could for your parents, and not accepting this condition would make you a *doozakhi *?
let's be clear about this here. Islam ortders you to take care of your parents and be nice to them, especially when they reach the old age...at the same time, Allah gives you the full right to choose your own spouse through Islamic means [no unsupervised dating!]...now, you have to strike a balance.
Parents have the responsibility to have their children's happiness and feasibility in mind before they bring a rishta to you...parents are obliged to have their children's approval/consent WITHOUT coercing them or blackmailing them emotionally...they have to strike a balance as well.
there is no such thing as bad-du'aa! Islam does NOT give parents the right to disown their children...they may show their resentment but can NOT disown...
try to find a middle path so all of you can be happy! wish you all the best and may Allah make things easy for you...aameen!
NO, not6 accepting their rishta and or exercising your right to choose your spouse does NOT make you dozaKhii...when parents say that, they are scaring their children in to submission...jannat dozaKh is granted by Allah and if you do good and do what Islam tells you to do is what will help you in the hereafter...and, not accepting parent's rishta is definitely NOT one of the reasons to go to hell!
Short answer is that you are obligated to listen to your parents, except in the matters that are against the shariah. Forcing you to marry someone, emotionally blackmailing if you are not agreeing, and threatening you with the consequences - all of these are against the shariah, hence, you are not obligated to listen to them in this matter.
Jazakallah it's getting clear now. Can you get married without the consent of your parents ? I'm married but it's for my sister :)
What should be the valid islamic reasons to approve/reject a rishta ? If you find someone compatible, but still don't want to get married to him, what could be the valid reasons ?
Why is that in the UK Pakistanis are more likely to marry their cousins compared to other Muslims?
It could be cultural. Lots of Pakistani who live them are from this famliy or that clan or this tribe from back home, and they probably like to marry within their community
The data doesn’t make sense to me at all … I’ve done some calculations and it doesn’t add up … It might still be true about the defects if they can show how cousin marriages differ from non-cousin marriages within the Pakistani community to factor out the racial bias … And then show how it actually works in a model … Because there are factors that eliminate the defects too …
There is no gunnah marrying outside the family. The Quran said marry only to those who are Muslims regardless that they belongs to which tribe or anything else. Hadith cleared more that marry one of those Muslima who is more knowledge of Islam.
I live in middle east and there are many many Pakistani married to Arabs and vice versa. I don’t know from where the dawn gets such news.
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& Peace DKD,