Re: Cousin’s In- Laws
If you read my last response to OP, I did mention that the gift-givers are partly responsible. I agree with you in that the girl’s family are at fault to an extent, but I don’t think it’s all their fault. The reason being that we all have been confronted with various paths or options, some of which are more morally sound than others…and not all of us pick the easier, but more unethical way out. We have the ability to think, to reason, and this guy is no doodh peeta bacha. Even a child knows that “2 for you and 5 for me” is playing unfair. Granted we have only one side of the story, but I don’t see obtuseness or cluelessness in the actions of the guy’s family. There’s chalaki, they know what they’re doing…so time for OP to wise up. And I have personally seen weddings where the parents of the bride were generous with gifts for the groom and in-laws…but the groom MashaAllah had his pride and did not take advantage of their generosity. So, this reinforces what I said earlier that although a certain path might be shown…not everyone opts to take the crooked path. But it’s good that u shed more light on the error that the cousin’s family made…it will serve, inshaAllah, as a precautionary lesson for the future. I hope OP is able to resolve matters without straining the marriage.