cousin marriage

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I used get little indirect hints from my mum abt marrying my cousin bro a year ago…

I don’t want to … for a number of reasons… and I had hinted it to her indirectly too…

but now after my czn sister got engaged to another czn too and i’m the next girl in line agewise…she mentioned it again indirectly… and kept doing his tareef bhai se… ofcourse meaning it for me…

do I tell her directly tht I don’t want to…or do I wait for her to talk abt it directly?

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That's really sad that you can't tell your mother directly that you dont' want to marry someone..

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Be honest with your mom, come'on it's your mother she will understand and even if she doesnt you have the right and duty to be honest with her.

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ha ha

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tell her clearly before she makes up her mind …btw y dun u wanna marry him?:hmmm:

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^ hints usually mean she would really like this to happen, and it will be much harder to say no when she is geared up and puts her case forward. Therefore, as awkward as it may be, nip it in the bud as to speak if it is really what you do not want, and tell her directly or indirectly (whichever you find easier) so that she knows your opinion before your parents come to you. If you are saying no just because you are unsure, then let her bring it up, and talk about it.

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I agree with the majority...........tell her before she comes to you

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You don't want her to think that her indirect hinting has eased you into accepting it..and you are ok with it by now...just let her know.

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I was in the same situation as you last year, but I have someone else in mind and my reaction was s strong that my parents never even mentioned it again. As starberry said, nip it in the bud.

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she is doing your mail cousin’s tareef with your bhai (another male) :konfused: oops

PS:
yee indirectly-indirectly khainla choro and talk to your mom directly.

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Why don't you want to marry your cousin ?

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Yeah I would say too, talk to your mom directly in an indirect way, so she wont feel you a are being too direct in your indirect way, directing your indirect discussion on her indirect hint directly. that would be bad :no:

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aur wese bhi shadi kisii bhi Alpha Beta Gamma se kero,itz all the same huh :@:

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:rotfl:

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Monk is right....directly keh do k indirectly bata rahi ho tum ne shaadi nahi karni..

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You should tell your mother that you are not willing to risk the deformities that come with bearing children from cousin marriages. This really is a public health issue and needs to be addressed. You should not feel bad about not wanting to take that risk!

In England, Pakistani babies account for only 3 percent of the births but have 33 percent of the children born with genetic problems.

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I agree

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Agree with the others. Sit down with your mom and tell her directly and firmly that you do NOT want to marry your cousin. "Nip it in the bud" before she gets any more excited about this OR before other family members get involved.