in pakistan it’s quite common seeing two cousins or relatives getting married or marrying in your “community”.. what do you think abt marrying your like brother/sister-like cousin.. does it play out to be a harmonious marriage or an awkward embarassing situation?
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There is a difference between being brother/sister like cousin and being actual brother and sister.
If there was something religiously wrong with that, it would have been automatically been banned.
So just chill and dont marry ur cousin if u dont feel like.
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The prophet PBUH married his cousin. That should alone be enough for any one marrying within the family. But if you dont feel like dont , there is absolutly nothing wrong with it religeously.
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If you live or plan to live in the west, USA or Europe, I'd keep it at least somewhat quiet if you're married to a first cousin - its just frowned upon and no business of anyone but yours so best not to advertise yeah? Nothing else wrong with it as long as you realize and consider the amount of inter-marriage that has gone on - the more inter-marrying within both family lines, the greater the chance of genetic troubles. You can allay fears or at least refine what risks you may face by having a consult with a genetic specialist. Otherwise, live, love and marry!
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I'v been excercising my cousins as my brothers since thats what iv been taught from day one, however when a cousins rishta came i literally laughed...i portrayed this guy like my bro and actually have a relationship with him is hell difficult, i personally can't build feelings for him as my husband since initially i saw him as my own brother and have acted like a sister towards him and now change the role as a wife is a big NO because my feelings and heart wouldn't accept it that way at all. But if for instance he was an expatriat and had least connection with him than there would be 90% chance of marriage vows taken between us.
At the end of the day its always down to oneself as some people find cousin marriages yucky!
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Go marry whoever you like and if you happen to live in west, just say that you are doing it country.
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Ofcourse cousin marriages are very much allowed in our religion. But as per my observation, the relationship does become somewhat sistery and brotherly... maybe it happens if the spouses, both of them, are quite shy... my brother and his better half are first cousins and its cute to see them around as a married couple. they do look more like cousins than a husband and wife, and that is very much cute i think.
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in our family mostly the grls sued to call thm bhaiiis 
n the husbands all of a sudden:rotfl:
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quite normal and common, especially within Pakistani families/culture.
in the west though its been frowned upon for first cousin marriages and as a result many Pakistani people raised or born here may have issues with it.
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Our family has been marrying their first cousins for a couple of generations now, but due to this generation being raised abroad nobody wants to deal with a cousin, they all want to marry outside the family.
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Do other non-Desi Muslims do in family marriages?
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That's sick.
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Personally I wouldnt, but really it's up to the person themeselves. For me there are a couple of reasons: one there is way too much family politics and then the whole growing up like sister and brother.
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I am married to my dad's older sisters son. We are cousins however we were never very close cousins. I mean I called him bhai.. we had an arranged marriage and in the beginning it was hard to adjust but after I got to know him and understand him as a husband I don't think I could have asked for a better person to be married to. Some people made excellend point though that Islamically there is nothing wrong with it, its more of a cultural issue and everyone sees it differently :)