:k: I agree with you 100%. You seem to be the only person on this whole forum with a brain. Cultures do not matter, but religion sure does. I’m Pakistani but my wife is not, she speaks a different language then I do, she’s from a different country then I am, her culture is different then mine but at the end of the day she is Muslim and so am I, and that’s what really matters at the end.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with inter-racial, inter-religious, inter-cultural or strictly inter-you-know-what marriages. How can their be anything wrong with it? Huh!
Muslims marry only muslims which I think is pretty discriminatory. Heck, muslims prefer not to marry muslims from other muslims sects… 
can’t get any worse..morons 
Some people confuse their comfort zone with religion which I think is even more interesting. I predict people will snap out of this frame of mind in a couple of decades. If white can marry black..anything can happen. 
If a Pakistani Muslim can be arrested in USA for non other crime than race religion AND nationality
EVERY sovereign state can do what America did after 9/11 in the name NATINAL reason Security And Patriot Act …
BULL ,:yukh:What is good for The Goose is also good for the Gantor :nuch:
I don't believe in it..call me backward, or an idiot or whatever!
It's being done and it won't stop nor can I control it but it isn't something that I prefer. //my mother side of the family is pretty much 1/2 Pakistani and 1/2 Other..All of my uncles have married non Pakistani women. I don't condemn my uncles for it nor do I hate my aunts (in fact I love them very much). Besides my one aunt who was Jatt Sikh, most of our reunions feature traditions from the bloody UN...yes embrace the diversity...real nice in words, but gets pretty old quickly. Confused cousins..interpretor needed while talking "Pakistanian"..
I married the sweetest Pakistani Muslim girl whose family may come from a different part of Pakistan but still can relate to me in Urdu, understands our religious obligations, and doesn't "need" to be asked to help my mom.
Yea so these kids from 2 cultures have choice between Hinduism and religion X or Islam and Catholicism...So what? I can turn into a Bhuddist french speaker at the time of my choosing and pass for one too. I can be "tolerant" and accepting of others as well..But clearly my wife and I don't need work on our religious and cultural orientions.
^ its not about being idiot backward ... its about your personal preference and how you are comfortable with
i am sure having similar cultural backgrounds makes one's marriage life a lot easier but still its not a guaranteed success.
i think in such situations at the end whether your spouse converts to your religion or not might not matter that much. however, there are certain aspects of life of which we are sure about (ofcourse this might vary from person to person). we know that they are correct/right. for example education and so on. and we would like these things to be a part of our children's life since we would want the best for our children. and thats when it gets tricky. what role would you want your/your spouse's religion to play on your children. that i think could be the only question to ponder upon.
Faith makes a human being a beautiful soul. And marriage/ loving someone entails union of souls. Then how can this union be dependent on faith. Faith can only push the case, rather than creating troubles.
suggestions/comments !
i'm myself a cultural mix kinda coz my father is punjabi and my mom is urdu speaking...tho i relate more to punjabi culture n have always considered myself punjabi...n thats where my heart lies...but technically speaking i'm still a mix...
and i've grown up in karachi with is totally multiethnic, and i had friends from all over pakistan while growing up...then i came to the usa and had friends from all over the world, tho my close friends were either muslims or indians...
i always used to think i would not marry outside punjabis...but i've seen my friends back home with whom i grew up, who were very ethnic and even spoke their provincial languages at home, getting married outside their ethnicity so now i think i could get married to a non punjabi pakistani.... jo Allah kee marzi...
religion se bahar karnay ka to khayr sawal hi paida naheen hota...
tho i think for example that Arab n Indian cultures r very similar to ours...i get along with indian non Muslims very well too and i basically like Indians..[dont be mad at me pak affairs peeplan :( ] i reckon i wouldnt have problems getting along with arabs or even non muslim indians...but i know i would never get married to a non Muslim coz marriage is not just abt u getting along with ur spouse, its a question of generations....n its not allowed in Islam for a Muslim woman to marry a non Muslim man...
not my parents but some of my cousins parents r very strict and they dont even marry outside the zaat they belong to...
these things r just implicitly understood i guess when u r being raised...but some ppl do cross these lines...whatver makes them happy...its their call...
waisay its sad...why isnt everyone muslim? :( i wish everyone was muslim :(
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I am an Indian Muslim married to a Hindu Brahmin girl :). Unlike me She is pretty religious and continues to be a Hindu Brahmin. We have been married for more than 5 years and we have a 6 months old.
It's ironic that She is a Hindu Brahimn and a non-vegetarian and I am a pure veg. :)
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Asif, how come you're veg? Vaisey I know another muslim in dubai (from bombay) who is pure veg. No fish even. The sweetest guy ever. Tall and muscular and plays basketball. But still I always thought it was mandatory for muslims to eat meat?
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Asif, how come you're veg? Vaisey I know another muslim in dubai (from bombay) who is pure veg. No fish even. The sweetest guy ever. Tall and muscular and plays basketball. But still I always thought it was mandatory for muslims to eat meat?
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o naheen yaara its not 'mandatory'.... :)
Irem, I don't know why I had this belief.:)
But intercaste marriages are becoming so common in India they don't even raise eyebrows. Our neighbors in B'lore whom we met 2 yrs back, and continue to meet off and on whenever we're there, belong to different religions. The funny thing is I came to know the husband is muslim only after 2 yrs or so. It wasn't like when we came to know each other, the lady said, 'Hi, I'm Rohini and in case you're wondering, my husband is a muslim.'
It's considered bad manners now to bring up religion or caste in conversation. And that's the way to be. I dream of the day when Indians will be just Indians.
My preferences for myself an my kids would be to give them a nice home where they are freed from the hassles of which religion is better or the pressures of well mommy is catholic and daddy is jewish so what shouldd i be?? Thats just me
hmmm.. interesting topic..
I think the only problems from interfaith marriages that may arise are when it comes to:
i) values and morals .esp considering how conservative and almost alien some of the islamic ones are to the rest of the world.
ii) in raising your children.. what are they gonna be? what will you allow them to do and not to do?
As long as the couple keeps this in mind and resolves all possible conflicts in this area I don't see why not? Lifes too short .. enjoy it.
The world is not black and white. And regardless of what all religions preach it would be wrong if two people who truely loved each other were to be kept apart because of this.
I know of one such couple.. a muslim girl and hindu guy.. They are the nicest people I know and when you see them together you know they belong together.
heh.. always interesting to see old threads coming up.
SUROOOR
Mera khayal tha ke aapko pata hoga ke how coples from different religion live together :D
bit late but my comments on this.
as long as both are not relegious they will get along well , they would not get married at the first place if they are relegious.
my Cousin is married to a Spainish Christian. both are not relegious much, but now after about 7 years, though they love each other.
both want to have kids and raise them with their own believes.
Only for that reason they will be breaking up though they love each other. both cant convince each other on one faith!
religion is not an issue , its a code of life !!!
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Religion is an issue, if you make it an issue. Once you can separate those then you and yours can enjoy diwali, christmas, easter and holi with the same vigor. God would want that.
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u need to correct ur statement about Religion DUDE.
religion is not just an idea or a concept . its a belief according to which a person spends his own life. its ur belief which is always at back of ur mind deciding about the world's right and wrong.so u create ur world according to ur religion.
religion is not an issue if u beleive in heaven and hell , no matter wat ur religion is either christainity , islam or watever .
as we muslims say "aamal ka daro madaar neeyaton par hai " .
however bieng a muslim we can marry non-muslims but after all its not liked by Allah.
and the question is not if the couple do or do not live happily , the question is about the kids they have to grow .
think on these lines like if ur wife is a non muslim white and that too a normal western thinking brain . she most probably would not mind ur daughter going on dates , dance clubs and getting involved in those stupid relationships of lust. and i dont think a good muslim would ever like that.
in the end i would suggest this life is a mere dream , tit for tat . watever ur beliefs r always try to look into other religions to learn to know wats right or wrong.
and i think particularly a muslim should never marry a non muslim gul, if he can not change her faith.
^^ You sound confused to me.
YOu say this life is a dream - but this dream is basically about tit for tat? But this dream can turn sour even if 2 muslims marry and don't get along, seeing every point scored as tit for tat.
YOu say muslims should not marry non muslims yet you say everyone should learn other religions and their right and wrong? If everyone did that they would find right and wrong to be pretty uniform.
I just hope you don't fall in love with a blonde.:)
It depends how religous both are (mentioned a lot of times in this thread). However I think that im most cases sooner or later one would try to change the belief of the counterpart anyway. So I'd rather clear out these things beforehand to avoid conflicts later on.
I'd only marry a muslim girl. I wouldn't have it any other way. I've seen the problems interfaith marriages can create.
^ it depends Fretty, some faiths are more inclusive than others. It is actually good to marry someone from another religion. That way the child from the union can practice both faiths and spread his risk. Say for example a child from a muslim and hindu marriage can pray to both Ram and Allah, that way if the muslims are right then he will be saved from hellfire and if the hindus are right he will attain a higher lifeform and maybe even reach nirvana. It is about spreading the risk, kids. Less risk of diseases of the head.