Matsui - It's never easy esp. when you are the first one in your family to have an Inter-faith marriage. Yes, it was an issue with our families (esp with my in-laws) for a while and it could have been lot different (and difficult) if we were living in India. But fortunately I moved to US around the same time I got married. Infact my In-laws were here when our kid was born. :)
It's indeed exciting to see all those Hindu festivals from so close, Same goes for my wife, I bet my wife can teach a thing or two about Islam to many of those Mullahs roaming in the religion forum declaring what is Islamic and what is not.
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Matsui - It's never easy esp. when you are the first one in your family to have an Inter-faith marriage. Yes, it was an issue with our families (esp with my in-laws) for a while and it could have been lot different (and difficult) if we were living in India. But fortunately I moved to US around the same time I got married. Infact my In-laws were here when our kid was born. :)
It's indeed exciting to see all those Hindu festivals from so close, Same goes for my wife, I bet my wife can teach a thing or two about Islam to many of those Mullahs roaming in the religion forum declaring what is Islamic and what is not.
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one of my classmates was called "Lakshmi George". where i come from, hindu-christian marriages arent too uncommon.
anyway, if muslims can have funky non-islamic origin persian names like shirin, ashgar, fatemah, aftab, probably even sheraz, why not vasundra khan? khan is a turkic word of mongol origic meaning leader. vasundra means earth.
i wonder if shehenshah akbar and jodabai had kids, and what their names were.
one of my classmates was called "Lakshmi George". where i come from, hindu-christian marriages arent too uncommon.
anyway, if muslims can have funky non-islamic origin persian names like shirin, ashgar, fatemah, aftab, probably even sheraz, why not vasundra khan? khan is a turkic word of mongol origic meaning leader. vasundra means earth.
i wonder if shehenshah akbar and jodabai had kids, and what their names were.
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i am not sure bout other names but how are Fatima and Asghar non islamic names? Fatima is the name of Prophet's daugthers ..Asghar is the name of Imam Hussain's (as) son.
i am not sure bout other names but how are Fatima and Asghar non islamic names? Fatima is the name of Prophet's daugthers ..Asghar is the name of Imam Hussain's (as) son.
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these are names that were in existance among pagans and zoroastrians even before the Prophet's times, and carry meanings that arent attached to Islam per se.
Actually those who dont know there are large numbr of Hindus who use Khan as their last name.I used ot have a teacher Ram Shankar Khan.
Its pretty much like choudhury which is used by both Hindus and Muslims.
islam doesnt permit women to marry non-muslims however men are permitted to marry non-mulsims (only Ahl-e-Kitaab), but it is preffered for men to convert them to Muslim first...
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so i was wondering if there are any couple of different faiths here or someone u might know, how do u deal with different belief systems? does it effect ur relationship? do u worry about what belief system shud ur kids grow up with or how it will effect them?
okay this might be dumb question but are their kids legit since none of the religion will recognize their marriage?
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Then why your parents and ancestors fought each other to death to DIVIDE INDIA into TWO …:yukh:
PPl. who convert or marry inter faith are IRRELIGOUS ..thats it
RELIGION doesnt matter .so Ahmedie not being accepted by Mainstream marries Eastern Asckenazi ? jew who knows head or tail about Ahmedie diff with Sunni muslim And if he does not BElieve in Any Religion including Judeaism BY CHOPICE ..then any one can accept to be ANYTHING …IT DOES NOT MATTER TO THEM ONE WAY OR ANOTHER
Yes America is IRRELIGOUS ..may be it has more morals than PRACTICNG any Hindu or Muslim..But in America because of Majority being DIVERSE and by CHOICE given up oLd country and religo cultural "baggage ..THEY ARE INERT to thse labels .What is a label when it can be ANYTHING ? Nothing !
WELL iam all for mixed marraiges
i see no problem as long as both love each other and i would like to go one step ahead i think it wont really matter if any one of them changes thier religion or not
infact i was on verge of marrying a punjabi hindu girl and there is another story of my friend who was a sunni muslim he was in love with a shia girl and when her parents came to know of the love they got her married to a much elderly shia man within 3 days
as far as children of mixed marraiges are concerned i feel they are smarter than others
salman khan
diya mirza
shahid kapur
mahesh bhat
and the list is endless
Most of the people I know of that have had mixed marriages I have met at the masjid, so obviously they are all former christians, hindus, jews that became muslim. They were all women that I saw and spoke with, and of course the children would be raised muslim. I found that they integrated or tried to integrate the culture, but usually the children adopted the culture of the person from the East, if the wife was from the West for example.
Among the people I have met (outside of muslims), for example a christian man married to a jewish woman, I have found that the children are usually raised as jewish as opposed to christian. Atleast with the individuals I have come across.
I have a friend who wants to marry a Christian but she wont unless he becomes muslim. She wants the children to be raised as muslims, but doesnt mind a mixing of culture, as she puts it.
Call me backward or narrow minded or what ever else… But to me religion is very important and I want my children to be raised as Muslims therefore I want my future wife to be a Muslim. As much as I love our culture and language I don’t give a hell about her being Pakistani or not, skin colour, caste or country of origin doesn’t matter to me, only religion matters. :)
I have a thing for blondes so I probably would be marrying outside our culture but I would try influencing her to Islam first if she refuses then tough, I’ll forget about her, I could never live with a non-Muslim no matter how much I loved her.
aisi aulaad say to aulaad na ho woh behter hai…this trash does not care about her religion or her parents..well the parents are pretty dumb too for letting her join the film industry
What if i told you love on condition is not true love ?
What if i told you that it is NOT love that your would be Aunty has for your uncle
but solution to her spinstress problem in the top no1 position than any other priority such as
2/her own religion
l3/ook or race of you uncle
4/nothing matters to her more than that she find a suitable partner no matter what else comes with it
and even if its a picture perfect match ...why they dont last more than 2 year (50%)
and even if it last more than 2 years it does not last more years than ARRANGED MARRIAGE ?
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what is love? a relationship like marriage needs a lot more to be successful than this so called love defined as some heavenly feeling these days. please don't get me started on this now.
my previous post did not imply[not even close to that] that he has set a condition of her embracing islam before getting married. he wishes she would do that. he is not very religious himself, however, now he is actually going through the Quran and Bible with her to better understand religion and to come to a conclusion which is better for both of them.
