So guys my wedding is just a month away. There are a couple of issues i have been thinking about for quite a while now. In an arranged marriage the guy and the girl dont know each other well, so is it a good idea to consummate the marriage on the first night or is it better to delay a little, get to know each other a little and then get intimate. I would really like to know the point of view of girls on this. What would be their preference? Would it be better just to ask her choice?
Next question, i will ask later in the thread 
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Dude come back in a year and read this thread and you'll laugh at yourself . . . btw girls only say that they like shareef guys , but they never meant in bed . . . if you know what I am saying . . .
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^if you make it that obvious, we all know what your saying.
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Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Read her signs, as she will be shy too. But if she wants to, and you don't feel ready yet, there shouldn't be any pressure on you. The first time is always going to be awkward, so it's better to feel comfortable with the person you're with first before you go into anything.
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Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Read her signs, as she will be shy too. But if she wants to, and you don't feel ready yet, there shouldn't be any pressure on you. The first time is always going to be awkward, so it's better to feel comfortable with the person you're with first before you go into anything.
I agree with this. The two should spend some time getting to know each other and feel comfortable around one another before taking it to the next step.
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Thou shalt do it the first nightfall.
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haha...not that I have ever asked anyone but I assume most wouldn't do it on the wedding night! I mean come'on....the weddings run so late and then usually there is no break between barat and valima so logically the probability of it happening is quite less but then what do I know!
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correct me if i am wrong. isn't sunnat that when you consummate your marriage you should give a party (valima)? This doesn't state that you have to do it on first night. But whenever you do , you have to throw a party (valima).
I could be wrong here.
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So guys my wedding is just a month away. There are a couple of issues i have been thinking about for quite a while now. In an arranged marriage the guy and the girl dont know each other well, so is it a good idea to consummate the marriage on the first night or is it better to delay a little, get to know each other a little and then get intimate. I would really like to know the point of view of girls on this. What would be their preference? Would it be better just to ask her choice? Next question, i will ask later in the thread :)
The most common question. Do not worry much Oldboy. You will know the right time. Relax and get to know her first.
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easy with her... I knew a couple where bride ended up in hosp at their valima morning
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^Seriously?
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It’s been days. I’m sleep deprived and starving. I still don’t know what he means.
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You should get to know your bride first, perhaps dance to a bollywood number, do some giggling, running through fields, hiding behind trees, all are appropriate. Also, there is no shame in taking two flowers and bumping them together in a constant rhythmic fashion.
I'm sorry, I can't take these questions seriously. You are either someone who has lived in a very segregated society and doesn't know the first thing about women OR you HAVE been around women and still don't have a clue how to be comfortable around them, either way, it doesn't bode well for the missus. Or you're just a troll.
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^ :k:
Just do what feels comfortable. If sex doesn’t happen the first night that’s ok. Don’t pay attention to what anyone else thinks SHOULD happen. Focus on what feels comfortable and natural for the two of you.
I think if she is willing to know you and she probably is then you should wait. It should come organically not awkwardly so if you are comfortable with each other go for it. If not wait and it might just be better.
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You should get to know your bride first, perhaps dance to a bollywood number, do some giggling, running through fields, hiding behind trees, all are appropriate. Also, there is no shame in taking two flowers and bumping them together in a constant rhythmic fashion.
I'm sorry, I can't take these questions seriously. You are either someone who has lived in a very segregated society and doesn't know the first thing about women OR you HAVE been around women and still don't have a clue how to be comfortable around them, either way, it doesn't bode well for the missus. Or you're just a troll.
oh aahmad, aahmad, aahmad....what would we do without you :D
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sounds like a troll...but try asking your wife and not every other woman in the world. just a thought