Do you listen to your own suggestions?
Say if a friend was in a trouble situation and you suggest him/her something. Would you give yourself same advice if you were in similar situation? And will you act upon that as well?
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Do you listen to your own suggestions?
Say if a friend was in a trouble situation and you suggest him/her something. Would you give yourself same advice if you were in similar situation? And will you act upon that as well?
you crazy ?
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^lol
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Different stokes for different folks
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usually I wouldn't give a suggestion that I wouldn't act upon myself.....
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Interesting question. Thats exactly what I do and I think everyone is supposed to do the same. Put yourself in the shoe of person you are suggesting something and then give the best possible suggestion.
One other thing is that sometimes its not even necessary to actually give an advice. Unless you are totally aware of all the circumstances and entire scenario it can end up to be real harmful. So unless u know everything, its wiser to say I dont know much about it and just suggest the person to do wutever is best for him/her.
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Maybe or maybe not. The whole point in seeking advice is to remove the emotional component of it. If you are in the same situation, chances are you will take the emotion/sentiment into consideration. And that is how it should be.
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Maybe or maybe not. The whole point in seeking advice is to remove the emotional component of it. If you are in the same situation, chances are you will take the emotion/sentiment into consideration. And that is how it should be.
So chances are your advice to yourself in a similar situation will be different from what you suggest others then?
Interesting question. Thats exactly what I do and I think everyone is supposed to do the same. Put yourself in the shoe of person you are suggesting something and then give the best possible suggestion. One other thing is that sometimes its not even necessary to actually give an advice. Unless you are totally aware of all the circumstances and entire scenario it can end up to be real harmful. So unless u know everything, its wiser to say I dont know much about it and just suggest the person to do wutever is best for him/her.
usually I wouldn't give a suggestion that I wouldn't act upon myself.....
If you are putting yourself in someone else's shoes while giving suggestions do you take into consideration their personality difference as well?
Different stokes for different folks
Question was, how different is it for you.
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So chances are your advice to yourself in a similar situation will be different from what you suggest others then?
Not will be. It could be.
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If you are putting yourself in someone else's shoes while giving suggestions do you take into consideration their personality difference as well?
Thats an interesting point. No I dont take the personality differences in mind. Ofcourse there will be some. But I suggest what "should be "done rather than what "would be" done.
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If you are putting yourself in someone else's shoes while giving suggestions do you take into consideration their personality difference as well?
I take other perspective first, put my feet in their shows...