Re: Could you give your child away?
i dont think i could do it, and i dont think I coudl accept a child as well (if my siblings were to give me one of theirs).
I think instead of me giving my child to my sibling, I think I would allow them to be their god parent (not sure if they have that in islam..but to that extent)..and even name that child and do the ghutti. I would want my childless siblings to have a special bond with my children, and I wish the same for vice versa too.
Re: Could you give your child away?
I hope I am strong enough to do it. Maybe I could give it as a baby.
If I was close enough to someone (my sister or family member) and I saw their suffering and they didn't have a child and it would bring me great joy to help someone in need.
Re: Could you give your child away?
I could/would do it ONLY for my siblings, thats it
I love and care about them that much that I can rip out my heart and hand them each a piece of it! sounds emotional but I really would
Re: Could you give your child away?
I don't think that I could do it.
I wish I could say that I could but I don't think I could.
Re: Could you give your child away?
I think the instinctive answer is no, never - what mother would want to be separated from her child?
But what if the child's very survival depended on you giving them away? I think about those mothers in Africa and Asia who struggle to raise their children, having yet another mouth to feed. If you gave your child away, the child would have a chance at survival - it they keep their child - death and disease are the more likelier outcomes. It's not a matter of the quality of life - it's survival. And for those who say, well shouldn't have more kids than you can afford - agreed - but if the choice is between aborting the child because the child cannot be "afforded" versus giving the child away - what's the better option?
If my child's survival depended on me giving them away...I would do it.
Re: Could you give your child away?
Surrogacy is not allowed in Islam, even if a mother wanted to do it for her barren daughter or a sister for her barren sister etc. God forbid if I was NOT Muslim, I still don't think I could ever, ever give away my baby, even if the eggs was not mine.
Re: Could you give your child away?
I cant but my friend has done it.
They have Mashallah 2 cute children (same age as my kids) and they handed over the 3rd one to my Friend's brother who is married form 19 years without kid. WE dont bring up the top but have always wondered how they have this big heart. My friend lives in Florida and his bro is in Detroit.
is your friend a Malik?
I know of a malik couple from Detroit who did not have kids till I left Detroit and they were married for well over 13-14 years by the time I left Detroit
Re: Could you give your child away?
Never, and If my sibling or SO's sibling couldn't have children I would still never do it. It's an ultimately selfish thing as the child grows up sometimes not even knowing about their real parents. Emotionally child gets insecurity issues and it won't work as every desi I know who's done this , the child has hatred for original parents for giving them away.
I'd never do it as i'd never wanna mess up that child's brain.
Re: Could you give your child away?
i can't even give away my pets....kids tou buhat dooor ki baat hai.