if you were looking for a spouse, what can possibly be the range of core values (spell them out, please ) that you would like to see in their person and spirit?
is there a probablity, that due to less time, interaction, contextual and time pressures, (and worse, due to induced fears and doubts), you completely over looked or worse, never got to look for the good in the person?
in that case, how will your personal honesty in thinking and fairness in intellectual reasoning, will lead you to make up for the error of misjudging someone, in a timely manner?
choti bahna..thori aasan english istamal kiya karo takai mugh jaisai bandai bhi samagh sakai....
1.fairness in dealing
2.strict values.
3.promise keeper.
etc etc....
and i will differ with you....even a small moment can give you an excellent insight of a person...while sometimes..months of relationship...in full swing...sometimes...do not give you the inner picture of a personalityin a crystal clear way....most of the times...the actions...and deeds ..speak louder than words...
and misjudjement is happened with many many great and clever and intelligent persons...we should pray to allah that...He shoul choose for us the right person..you cannot judge anyone...by just meeting..until you cannot live with that...as a spouse..even than many many things of both areunknown to both....no one can dig a tunnel into other's personality....only allah knoww the inner most of hearts...