Re: Coping with loss
I lost my big Sister just over a year and half ago.. although she wasn't one of my parents, I looked upto her so,so, so much and talked to her about everything. To not have her here today to talk to, laugh with, see her play with her two little girls tears me apart. I suffered a miscarriage last year and I would've given anything to have had her with me to help me through the tough time. She was everything to me..
She died in the very early hours of the morning and was buried later that evening. All I remember is the very next day trying to hold everyone/everything together and keep the "routine" for everyone especially for her kids. I was so busy I never really had a chance to properly grieve and accept the loss of my beautiful sister... and then BAM, it hit one day (about a year later) and it broke me... BUT I realised that for the sake of her kids and my Mum, I had to get back up and keep everything in order.. That's how I have coped.. by focusing on her beautiful babies and keeping them happies.. If I didn't have them, I don't what I would do..
I guess for me, I coped by stepping in as a Mum for my nieces. Maybe stepping into the shoes of the person you have lost (for siblings, nieces, cousins, etc) could help you cope/deal with your loss..
I pray that everyone that has lost someone is granted patience and strength to deal with the loss of their loved one(s). May Allah (swt) forgive their sins and grant them a place in Heaven.. Ameen.