Re: Coping with loss
Sorry to hear about your loss. My father passed away in late 2006, been 3 years but the pain never subsides. We are so used to having our parents around and we don't realize that until after we lose them. There never is a right time to lose a parent or to lose any loved one, and all we can do is have faith in what Allah has decided for them. Allah has a special one-to-one relationship with every single human he has created. It is hard to comprehend by looking at our own situation, the pain just doesn't let us understand. It is a well developed system, everybody is moving towards the same destination, one after the other. Our parents leave today, we will follow, and then our children - be that in this order or not. Look at it this way, it is harder for a parent to bury a child, because it is more naturally right for the children to bury the parents. Alhamdulilah my father did not have to go through the trauma of carrying a dead child's janaza. Humans depreciate with time, there is a peak and then there is decline. Allah knows best, there is a right time for everyone to leave. It leaves a huge space and we miss those who leave for our own sake. But for the sake of those who leave, it is the right time.
I don't know if anything I say is any helpful, but their memories are a precious asset. We have to accept the loss, submit to Allah's will, and the best we can do is pray for their souls. They need our prayers. Time goes fast, we wouldn't even know when we will be in their position, and then we will follow them to our ultimate destination. If we leave behind someone who is there to pray for us, we are lucky. Your parents are lucky that they have left you behind to pray for them and to continue what they left unfinished.
You will be in my prayers inshalah. Please pray that all the departed souls rest in peace, and Allah gives us enough strength and will to make them proud and to be able to face Allah and our parents in there hereafter.