After having tried our best, our failure in examinations, in marriage, in a business or in any test is not the end of the world.
Countess people have been there before us, picked up the pieces, tried again and succeeded. Some have even succeeded after many attempts and have gone a very long way thereafter.
It is those who refuse to come to terms with reality who punish themselves by believing that such losses are eternal.This leads to their lives coming to a standstill whilst others progress, and causes depression which results in further loss.
Most people have tasted loss or failure in some aspect of their lives to different degrees. This can be a gift at times as the Almighty gives us something far better in return or helps us to mature and draw closer to Him, understanding our purpose in life better.
Never allow failure or loss to deter you, depress you or make you feel unworthy. Give it your best and try again and again, and if need be……again!
I listened to a Yasmin Mogahed lecture on a similar topic a while ago and she said that when we are hurt by the way others treat us.....we have to keep in mind that their harsh/unjust treatment of us is the qadr of Allah..that He destined this for us....and our offenders are only following Allah's plan.
But ...surely Allah would never will or want us to be harsh/cold/unjust/disrespectful to anyone...whether it's a Muslim, non-Muslim, or even an animal? So is it really predestined by Him that others will hurt us? Does Allah make people hurt us? Does Allah make us hurt others?
I listened to a Yasmin Mogahed lecture on a similar topic a while ago and she said that when we are hurt by the way others treat us.....we have to keep in mind that their harsh/unjust treatment of us is the qadr of Allah..that He destined this for us....and our offenders are only following Allah's plan.
But ...surely Allah would never will or want us to be harsh/cold/unjust/disrespectful to anyone...whether it's a Muslim, non-Muslim, or even an animal? So is it really predestined by Him that others will hurt us? Does Allah make people hurt us? Does Allah make us hurt others?
When i read these ayat of surah at tawba...i m Alhamdulilah relaxed everything whether its good or bad come to us its from Allah even if i ve hurt by people...
**If good befalls you, it distresses them; but if disaster strikes you, they say, "We took our matter [in hand] before," and turn away while they are rejoicing. (50) Say, "Never will we be struck except by what Allah has decreed for us; He is our protector." And upon Allah let the believers rely. (51)
Another irrelevant question, If I’m not wrong Tahurra isn’t kind of feminine name I’m confused because at the end of your post, you wrote name “Mufti Ismail Menk” and unable to guess whether you’re brother of sister in Islam.
After having tried our best, our failure in examinations, in marriage, in a business or in any test is not the end of the world.
Countess people have been there before us, picked up the pieces, tried again and succeeded. Some have even succeeded after many attempts and have gone a very long way thereafter.
It is those who refuse to come to terms with reality who punish themselves by believing that such losses are eternal.This leads to their lives coming to a standstill whilst others progress, and causes depression which results in further loss.
Most people have tasted loss or failure in some aspect of their lives to different degrees. This can be a gift at times as the Almighty gives us something far better in return or helps us to mature and draw closer to Him, understanding our purpose in life better.
Never allow failure or loss to deter you, depress you or make you feel unworthy. Give it your best and try again and again, and if need be……again!
With the help of the Almighty comes true success!
Mufti Ismail Menk
encouragement to dunya dari, we don't need that! Is this some speech you have written down? I actually disagree with the importance placed on trying and trying again. We are the people of contemplation and rectification. If the individual believes his loss is eternal, in some cases it should be appreciated as so. very muddled up. Certainly no masterpiece. I take it part of your motivation was just to get this guys name in? and its the innovated aqeedah that you are pushing?
I can see the comforting aspect of op, However I came away with the view that it was the opinion of someone who is 'barely' believing. I saw the following statement as an act of 1) defiance, 2) Riya (shirk) and an 3) assurance that those being called will never come back (to Islam):
*Never allow failure or loss to deter you, depress you or make you feel unworthy. Give it your best and try again and again, and if need be……again!
*This is basically telling people to heighten their desires and make them their goals.
Its no wonder that the guy is popular among people of falsehood
If the above is little too intricate we can discuss him personally. I say he is 1)Ahul Bidah, and a caller to 2)Hellfire, and he 3)disagrees with Islam on some points
This is not a well researched conclusion i am presenting here, the issues are actually pretty much open to discussion with the possibility that i am wrong
whaaa?
whats so haraam about having goals and wanting to attain them?
Since when are you not allowed to have goals or be ambitious?
This is why we produce students who don't go anywhere. We feed them with fodder that suggests ISLAM is telling them to not be successful when Islamic history suggests no such thing.
whaaa?
whats so haraam about having goals and wanting to attain them?
Since when are you not allowed to have goals or be ambitious?
Well I never said having goals was Haram, what i did say was that chasing dunya to an extent that the quote suggests, a goal that you will not give up on, is not an Islamic statement to make. corrections are welcome to my opinion
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This is why we produce students who don't go anywhere. We feed them with fodder that suggests ISLAM is telling them to not be successful when Islamic history suggests no such thing.
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Islam teaches us to obtain an Honest, Halal living and not amass fortunes
Islam tells us to amass a fortune for the hereafter, not for this life
Islam encourages us to remain poor, to save from a 500 year extended wait in Jahannum
I think I am the very person that believes in the 'fodder' that you are talking about. Really the only way to shift my opinion on this is with Islamic proofs, if you have any please do share.
.A good lesson :k:
I’m confused because at the end of your post, you wrote name “Mufti Ismail Menk” and unable to guess whether you’re brother of sister in Islam.