My question is how would any of you cope or are coping with your child with dissability knowing that there child might not ever talk or walk one day, i know this might upset some people but someone i know is going through this and would like to know.
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How would you cope?
This is what I ask myself sometimes if this khuda na hasta happens to me. For my part, I'll be there cuz I know how it is when [you'are limited and] no one is there...
In the end it's my kid, meyn tokra kaise saktha hoon? yaan uff kaise kar saktha hoon?
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i think it's a biggest challange for someone who's in situation like this.................i know a couple in my extended family who're going thru this , their son ( now in 20s) could talk but can't walk + he's mentally unstable , he has some kind of muscular dystrophy, also 2 of their daughters have died (one was around 6 and another was 19 yrs), it's hard for them and something unbearable to cope with , we all pray for them though.
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all i can say is ALLAH ka sab say bara imtihan hai they shuld just pray
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Its Gods will. can Only pray that Allah gives people the strength to get thru somethin like this.
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One of my cousins is handicapped and since the day he was born, his parents have had to do one thing or the other for him. He was premature when born and had a lot of issues, including cerebral palsy. When he was a year or two old, tey came to the US. Stayed here for some years and then moved to Canada. Thier immigration issues havent been resolved and both my mamoo and mami havent been home to see their families for 12 years. But MaashaAllah with the attention he got in the west, my cousin is very independent now and can take care of himself if need be. He can take a shower himself, is in high school for special kids, reads quran everyday, namaz etc and spells better than his parents, lol. He still has issues now and then, one of his legs is shorter than the other so he has to walk with a walker kind of thing. He has a permanent scar in his neck from a tube they used to insert in his body to clean up mucus etc. Now he constantly has an IV sort of thing in his body incase he needs treatment for his current problem. Underneath all this, he is just a normal kid.
FYI, my mammoo went on having 4 more kids after him, he is hte oldest, and they are all perfectly fine and healthy MaashaAllah.
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The question here is...how do you deal with it? And the answer is that you just DO. Your child is the most precious gift, the best thing in your life and you do whatever it takes yeah? My guy is considered "handicapped" but most people wouldnt know it so mashallah he is blessed and so are we in this...but there are extreme difficulties .... with getting him to eat (he would literally prefer to starve), getting him to pay attention (heck, there are just so many OTHER interesting things going on...butterflies out the window, tires on a toy truck to spin, fans whirring overhead) Anyway, my point is that when you give birth to a child, you love the child unconditionally and you do whatever it takes to help the child thrive to the very best of their ability. Not easy esp when they have troubles but so well worth every ounce of sweat and tears and joy that you pour into their blessed little souls.
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i'm sorry to hear about all stories may allah give courage to respective parents , amen.
and mama who's the guy that u've mentioned , i mean how's he related to u ??