Coping with death?

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Re: Coping with death?

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What is your way of coping with death?

A friend of mine back in the UK recently died from a heart attack at a young age. I’ve found that I get upset about it only when I’m actually thinking about him, For example, I assumed he was buried last week and was fine with it, but when my mother who was at the funeral talked about him lying in the casket I felt my voice wavering and myself getting emotional. Now I find myself consciously fighting to keep any memories I have of him locked up and forgotten because they upset me when I remember them.

I did the same thing when my grandmothers in Karachi died. I’ve tended to hide from my memories of them from almost the very moment that I heard they died, in order to avoid getting upset by it. It’s now reached the point that even though my dadi died only around 12 years ago, I struggle to remember much of her, what she looked like, and cannot remember the sound of her voice. My nani died 2 years ago, and again, I hide from my memories. I’m fast forgetting about her, and I find that I don’t want to try and remember because I’m worried that I’d get emotional about it.

What do you do when those you know die? Do you try and avoid their memories, or do you face them and try to get through them?

i learn grieving when i was kid (my mom passed away when i was 11), and i’ve lost my two grannies, and one grand dad…so i’m rather used to it:bummer:…BUt it’s hard to see one’s family disappearing:(
facing death…remembering the dead one is a good way to deal with it
i used to go to the cenetary and visit my mom’s grave often when i was a teeenager cause it’s not far from home…i’m ashamed of crying about mom sometimes, i did a lot, and often in the past..but just very rarely now…
because time heals even the hardest shortcomings…it takes time but eventually solutions to problems of loosing someone that is holding your life comes along the way…one day:blush:

keep praying, keep hoping