yehh..thnx pSquared and RV..its like we arent far away literally 15min drive but we don't get to see each other because of family etc so its mainly msn/text and i do try to avoid arguements because im fed up of the negative feelings and stress from it all but when he says things like ' you just piss me off and we are better of not chatting' when his angry then i cant help getting upset. Its things like im saying something and then he gets confused somehow even though im still on about the same thing because the convos flowing because thats just the way i talk like i would in real and he doesnt understand so i say doesnt matter forget it because its not important to explain all over again and repeat myself. Thats what the latest issue was that caused an arguement. I still think back to the early days and miss them and obviously his changing and realising responsibilities nearing marriage which could be why we clashing more now but why be so hurtful. I am going to try resolve the matter and i know he will reply. Wish me luck!