So these two boys in my neighborhood are a total no no for my daughter because they are violent and aggressive and they also have a bad thought process. So I told my girl that she is not allowed to play outside with them. However, they keep coming to our house and ringing the doorbell and asking to play with her. I politely tell them that she can’t play at this time, she’s busy or we have to go out or something, eh? So they climb up my deck at the back and peep in through the window and tell her…hey sneak out and oh your mom’s so uncool . My sweet daughter tells them… no I will never do anything without checking with my mom because she always tells me the right thing. Phew.
From a woman's perspective = a person whom a child can go to for anything and everything. A point of contact for any advice they need, any issues they have...most of all a cool mother is someone you can trust. Also, someone who shows affection regularly towards their children.
Being a cool mom doesn't mean to set your kids free without boundaries, but it is important to give your kids room to move and learn things for themselves.
good for you niksik! parents these days are way too obsessed about being the cool and fun parents rather than being a parent! your kids will thank you in the long run because setting rules will make them responsible and disciplined individuals.
being close to your kids is one thing but letting them run wild in the name of being a cool mom is no good, kids need structure. you can still be a cool mom and not turn into a doormat, that would just send the wrong msg to the kids.
I know this one woman who dresses her kids up to the nines cos she thinks its 'cool' for them. Her eldest is 11, she came to my cousins (11 year old) birthday party wearing more make up than me!
We had a make over party where I was curling their hair and putting nail varnish on them, no 'real' make up and it came to her turn and she was all 'Do you have any blush?' I didnt know what to say to her, I know what I wanted to do to her though! :D
Well, their mom is not a cool mom. She is irresponsible.
A cool mother is one with whom you can speak openly and honestly; who encourages you to become a whole, respectful, productive, thoughtful, spiritual, creative, independent, and intelligent person – the best that you can be – while helping you to make good decisions.
I remember a neighbour boy sitting on our wall teaching me how to swear. He was a few years older than me. My ma came out and ordered me inside, I was not even allowed to look at that boy again. She also ordered that boy to go home and never come into our garden again! Haha, he gew up to b REALLY BAD, so she had a point.
. My sweet daughter tells them… no I will never do anything without checking with my mom because she always tells me the right thing. Phew.