why do guys put so much emphasis on this? just cus a girl doesnt know how to cook before marriage, whats the big deal?
she will learn with time.. and isnt that the main thing? Ur not gonna start expecting her to whop up a five star meal for you from day one are you?
and most times, even if the girl knows how to cook, she has to alter her food neways to make it to the style of the hubz… soooo why is it a bad thing that she learns afterwards or even with the help of the hubz?
really, boys, dont reject a girl or mock her even, if she cant cook prior to being married… she’s not becoming ur personal cook (which seems to be the criteria), she’s becoming ur partner..
good on u if u can iron, cook and do all sorts of things before u marry her… shows u can at least lift a finger.. but doesnt mean, u cant teach ur better half the things u have been taught…
Actually, a friend of mine said he would prefer it if his wife DIDN'T know how to cook because than his mother could teach her, and you know how guys love their moms cooking. I was like, suhweet, I would totally learn from my MIL
^ could that better cook good not come after the wedding? like really? what if she's learnt to cook one way and u totally dont dig her style (or her mothers style).
Anyone can become a good cook... aint it sweet to do it together neways?
Before wedding everyone expects a guy to be mature, responsible, Loyal, stable, patient, respectful,dependable…
Can these qualities not be built after marriage ( may be its going to take a bit longer ) but finally he will posess these qualities somewhere down the road and in the mean time the suffering he may have brought to the innocent one should be excuseable.
Nope…an irresponsible guy, unstable guy, mean guy, broke guy is not acceptable.
Expectations…see…expectations…
These expectations should not be there…
But these are the standards…some are acceptable…some are bendable…
There are tons of guys who don’t care about good cooking wife…
THere are tons of guys who don’t care about outgoing wife…
There are tons of guys who don’t care about a loyal wife…
FINANCIAL STABILITY=PROVIDING NECESSETIES OF LIFE=ABILITY
Hi NightVision,
I think what Sadzzz is trying to say is that a wife is a partner. And as a partner....she connects with you on various levels (mental, emotional, physical, psychological). Also, as a partner she provides encouragement and emotional support in shared goals for the future.
A wife's role is not confined to being just a cook. There are other** more important aspects** that form the backbone of a marriage (mutual communication, understanding, support, and trust). If a wife can't provide you all these important qualities......then she can be the BEST COOK **in the world.....but the marriage will **FAIL.
A woman can eventually learn how to cook after marriage. Our desi cooking is pretty easy.....you always use the same foundation of spices for practically every dish. A woman can be a GOOD wife AND learn the art of cooking after marriage as well.
Also, in these days and times, both husband and wife might work to pay the bills. And in such a situation it's unreasonable for a guy to say "well, i pay the bills.....so you better cook me a gourmet meal." ** The roles in a marriage are not black and white. And once in a while a husband might have to do the cooking. And it can be **FUN to cook a meal together as a couple.
What Sadzzz is saying is that "cooking skills" are not and should not be sole criteria that one looks for in a wife. :)
I didn't know how to cook before marriage and my mom told my mother in law that my daughter don't know how to cook.But she and my hubs were fine with it and my mother in law said I'll teach her how to cook because I have told all my bahoos :D so it went well.And finally my hubs had a diary in states and I had to ask him,my mom or mil about everything and first 4 mnths were interesting as my hubs told me how to cook.But it was fun:D and now he never enters kitchen accept when its eating time because he loves my cooking.
I think now a days there is no problem if you don't know how to cook.We are girls so we come to know soon how to cook it shouldn't be a problem.
And that’s what you get for trying to give my friend Sadzzz a tough time
And thanks for thinking I save the world, I have impeccable timing. LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL. I’m flattered. (Even if you say it sarcastically).
Believe me, it’s not my intention to carry the huge noble burden of saving the world. C’mon Nightvision, you’re a good guy…I don’t have anything against you. In fact, I wanted to thank you for unknowingly helping me out in a previous thread.
I was just giving her tough time. 
