i have christian friend and his wife converted to islam and her husband didn’t
the muslim clerics says that their marriage is invalid unless the husband becomes muslim and husband is not interested in converting and she has two children one is in 14 ,16 years age and they also not interested in converting
the wife loves her family and she is suffering lot on what to do next
He is my collegue, any suggestions guys ???
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To the best of my knowledge, the cleric stands correct.
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True
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So what happens next in this kind of case? She loses her family! Wouldn't that become one of the reason for some non muslims not to convert? As I see it if she stays with her husband and children they might convert themselves once they see her good conduct.
I agree that muslim women cannot marry non muslim but already married non muslim women is a whole different game. Is it possible that 1400 years back it was not even thinkable that a woman might convert without the consent of her husband, thats why no seperate decree for this.
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^ according to Quran a muslim woman cannot be married to a non-muslim man....
if she really has accepted Islam from her heart, she shud be willing to sacrifice for the sake of Allah....
many muslim women, who had entered the fold of Islam, at the time of the Prophet (saw), did leave their husbands who did not accept Islam....
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I beleive he is not asking for a rulling but the real question is
the wife loves her family and she is suffering lot on what to do next
He is my collegue, any suggestions guys ???
I can imagine it is a very difficult situation. Because for a happily married wife, husband and kids are like whole world for her. Same is for husband mostly.
Any suggestion would sound cosmetic and may not address the gravity of the problem, if we do not know more about the family.
Like if someone who is not interested in religions then it would be next to impossble to convince him/her.
First and foremost she should pray for her husband , that Allah show him light and he shows some interest. And All of us should pray for the family.
Indeed Prayer is most powerful weapon we have.
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Taking it one step further...
Why was conversion such an important pre-requisite for marriage? What was the logic and thinking behind it?
Any views?
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She is in a dilemma for sure. It is not easy to leave her husband and children. But Islamic ruling invalidates the nikah. Hard for sure, no doubt, but its the truth.
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where is that islamic ruling that invalidates the nikah? remind me which sura is that written in?-
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what surah are you looking for? Its basic Islamic ruling. A nikah is not possible btw a muslim and non-muslim. End of the story.
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A nikah is not valid between Muslim women and Non mulim man but i am not sure if the same is true for a Muslim man and a Non muslim women.
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his wife converted to Islam before getting married to him or afterwards?
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I believe Nikah is allowed btw a Muslim man and an Ahle Kitab (ppl of the book) woman.
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if she really has accepted Islam from her heart, she shud be willing to sacrifice for the sake of Allah....
many muslim women, who had entered the fold of Islam, at the time of the Prophet (saw), did leave their husbands who did not accept Islam....
But what do "YOU" think. What is more important a non muslim accepting Islam while married to a non muslim or no conversion because a person cannot leave their family? I mean what the common sense says in this matter?
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There is one very important thing here. She is not only responsible for herself but also for her kids. Parents are the most imp thing for children. Loosing one of them isn't very easy for them specifically in this kind of situation when they don't understand the reality.
Lets say, she leaves her family - what would happen to her kids. In this situation, her kids won't see her again. And the result can be far more serious.
So we need to find out what does Islam say about this particular situation. How does it teach to handle the kids.
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^Exactly.
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Islam is pretty clear on the matter. They both are not legally wedded. Then u can consider about the children. Circumstances do not altar law. The husband must convert to Islam ( provided the wife is still willing to remain muslim) if they wish to be legally wedded. In fact, at the moment they are not even husband and wife.
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^^
you're right but I still have the same question, what does Islam say about children who are dependents. Legally, (most probably) she'll have the custody. Kids won't like to live with her - Can you imagine the situation.
According to Islam, she is bound to takecare of her kids. So there are 2 religious things here - Her embracing Islam & her responsibilites as a mom.
Imagine, in this case, her daughters would most probably hate her - as a result they wouldn't even wanna talk about Islam - they would be against it.
I'm sure there must be some Islamic material on this particular situation with kids. I agree about her marriage part but there must be some solution to this kids situation.
If Islam clearly says to leave the kids to husband - ofcourse who am I to make comments. Allah knows the best.
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She can still be with them, did her husband stop her from seeing her children? She can still continue to see her kids, they can spend time with her, if she has accepted Islam then very likely she knew that she will lose husband if he didn't revert.
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According to Islam, she is bound to takecare of her kids. So there are 2 religious things here - Her embracing Islam & her responsibilites as a mom.
Imagine, in this case, her daughters would most probably hate her - as a result they wouldn't even wanna talk about Islam - they would be against it.
I'm sure there must be some Islamic material on this particular situation with kids. I agree about her marriage part but there must be some solution to this kids situation. If Islam clearly says to leave the kids to husband - ofcourse who am I to make comments. Allah knows the best.
arent we making too many assumptions here? ^
i think the only person that can answer this question is someone that knows exactly what situation she is in. Perhaps she should consult someone more knowledgeable about the rulings in terms of what to do with the non-muslim children.
Also....she can still fulfill her duties towards her children. Im sure the children didnt fall out of love for their mom simply because she converted. They can still have a relationship with her.