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where did i use the word ass ee ex in my previous post?
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knowing what the spouse needs and depends on you for, and using that against them when the time comes for it.
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I would tell you but its a bit x-rated
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And with that dough I make paratay.
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if u need to control your spouse, then u (or him/her, generically speaking) is with the wrong individual..
:-)
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It’s some natural talent baby. You’re born with it. It cant be acquired 
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men are like free birds. what good is a caged bird??
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im talking about ways to control him not ways to spoil him:mad:
please explain more! … do u mean showing them the couch when they dont listen to you? (but it applies to men only)
pm me
hehe wicked! kinda like what dope said …
im talking about MARRIED men 
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I think there are few women I know who are controlling.
Woman # 1: Her husband does not have confidence. He is very shy. I guess she was the only girl who saw him, smiled and let him hold her hand. That did it. He can't even move without her permission. He thinks she is the best thing happened to him after slice of bread.
Woman # 2: Her dad is a judge and she is from big city. Whenever he tries to say something, she tells him to be quite because he does not know anything.
Woman # 3: She is polite and pretends that he is the boss. She let him decide about smaller things like what to eat. He can't make decision and stick to it. Things get done only when she tells him it DO IT, not if no but.
So conclusion #1 uses sex, # 2 uses her strong family and # 3 uses strong personality.
Its the guys who let them do it and it is not women's fault.
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Raima^^ very interesting...but i think woman #1 is using his low self-esteem to control him....
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probably both, becasue per woman # 1 she can make him do lots of thing by just waering a shirt which shows cleavage.
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shweetdreamz i am not joking sachi.. i might not be married lekin i am telling you honestly..
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^ For desi men food does do the trick. It is most bizarrest thing I have seen :D
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Spouces are'nt supposed to be controlled. Be urself and let him be himself, enjoy each other's individuality. A good relationship between a man and a woman is when they both feel relaxed and comftrable, not uptight and compelled.
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PARATHAY definitely for my man! :D
Anyway, u dont need to control him. Be urself.
Just give him space to breath.
Ask him how was his day when he gets back from work. Massage back and feet.
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You might be able to control a person via various methods but i would NEVER recommend it, it makes for the miserable married.
Myself, i believe in supporting and promoting the others interests. Let them flourish. Wilted flowers are of little use. :)
On the other hand, when i really want to make him do what i want its a sad face and a pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeej. Works all the time :D
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Very true. I give him a pouty face. He can’t resist that. hehehe. Girls have so much power. . .they don’t even realize. . .
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This is a friend of a friend. She is very manipulative. She controls her husband like she has a remote control in her hand. In front of friends she says, "Oh John makes the best steaks, don't you dear? He'll make some for all of us and you'll see for yourself." So John happily obliges so everyone can taste his delicious and skillfully bbq'd steaks.
Then it was bedtime for the kids and the wife would rather just lounge and chat with friends. So she says, "John, the kids just love your stories so much. Everynight they listen daddy and they fall asleep like that." So John gallops along happily to tuck the kids in. This seems to work for this couple. A husband who loves being needed and complimented constantly. And a wife who loves to delegate duties and still keep her 'me' time.
This wife knows exactly what she's doing and it works. I wonder though if the husband knows he's being controlled to the extent that he is. Maybe he likes it.
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Shweet, if you think you need to control your spouse, you are not ready for marriage. When you ask about controlling your spouse, you're insulting the institution of marriage. Now, if you're talking about small things like trying to convince your spouse to do something nice for you by pouting or with sex, that's different. Those are just the little games that husbands and wives play, they KNOW they are being manipulated and go along with it anyway. Like Discoduck said, when my wife wants me to do something like get her something from downstairs when we're already in bed and she pouts and pretends to sniffle and cry, I KNOW i'm being manipulated but I go along with it.
If you're trying to figure how to manipulate your husband without him knowing he's being manipulated, then you should get a dog not a husband.
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Agree with mamaof 3....
Don't get caught up in the thinking that alot of couples have that one person needs to "control" the other and hte other gets totally walked over....
Really if you want that relationship..fine. But it's no fun.
I say get to know your spouse, work hard on keeping each other happy, don't be a push over BUT don't be so stuck on getting your way that it's only your way that's "right" all the time... It's harder having a relationship that is without games and more a give and take and upfront.