Do you have one? How do you deal with them? I mean controlling as in they tell you what to cook, what to wear, you can’t purchase anything over $20 without asking, they go through your credit card bills, etc.
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I dont understand how someone can ever tell you anything. After 18 your own parents dont control you anymore.
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If your spouse doesn't interfer with anything, then what kind of marriage would that be? To be honest, it's a good idea to keep a check on each others finances and expenditures. I would go through my husbands credit card bills and he's welcome to do that with me. What if I go overboard with my fancy purchase of a $900 designer bag while he goes and buys a ridiculously expensive gadget? We'll both be broke in a few months! I have a habit of ridiculous impulse purchase at times and need someone to snap me out of it. Both spouses should keep eacho thers spending under a check i believe.
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I wouldn't call it controlling if he stopped you from buying a $900 bag. I mean controlling as in your spouse checking your bill every month, not letting you buy even something that's not THAT expensive (eg. $100 purse), telling you how to dress when you go out. Even small things, such as don't cook this dish. What if he/she did this ALL the time. Would you get annoyed?
I wouldn't call it controlling if he stopped you from buying a $900 bag. I mean controlling as in your spouse checking your bill every month, not letting you buy even something that's not THAT expensive (eg. $100 purse), telling you how to dress when you go out. Even small things, such as don't cook this dish. What if he/she did this ALL the time. Would you get annoyed?
Oh yeah, I will be annoyed if he tries to control every aspect of my life. I do care about what kind of outfits he likes me to wear but I have a personal preference too.
give him a taste of his own medicine ...
control his way of life .. about his friends, going out and shopping .. he will get sick of it and will tell u off .. thats when u tell him but u are doing the same to me I am only following your habbits.
give him a taste of his own medicine ...
control his way of life .. about his friends, going out and shopping .. he will get sick of it and will tell u off .. thats when u tell him but u are doing the same to me I am only following your habbits.
this 'getting even' and 'tit for tat' thing never works for men esp husbands.
they take it too personally. :p some men are just too controlling. i have seen my dad that way mostly. mama doesnt mind as according to her, she always looks up to dad for most decisions but i don't believe in letting your husband control every teeny weeny thing like what to wear and what to cook and what to buy. that goes overboard i think :)
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Man that is one lousy wife. Why did you marry her?
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Too controlling spouse is one of biggest reason of failour of marriages. I know a lady want to control husbands life ended up divorced.
It is better to have healthy mutual respect, only get involve in each others affairs when extremely necessary.
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Talking over finances and sharing your ideas for what you want to do with your money is one thing.
One spouse sniffing through another's purse and online bank accounts is a bit...scary.
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My BIL provides everything to my sis, but he does keep check on her expenditures, which is i think fair.
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Is he flexible though? Does he command, or is there a DISCUSSION when it comes to finances. It's one thing to discuss, another to command another human being who has the freedom of her own thoughts and desires.
My ex-spouse was controlling he had this built in defect of saying NO to everything. I did tried to obey everything he told me too. I thought of it as something mutual if I respect his wishes he would respect mine. I don't think that it's a completely wrong approach after all when two individuals are married they shd respect each other wishes. But everything has it's limits too much of anything is not good. In my opinion if listening to spouse's small small preferences of clothes and cooking food and all can save your relationships from some fights then both should listen to each other , again it shd be MUTUAL.
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^ pcg i think he is flexible. Though I do not know the inner stories.
Do you have one? How do you deal with them? I mean controlling as in they tell you what to cook, what to wear, you can't purchase anything over $20 without asking, they go through your credit card bills, etc.
Two warnings, and then if its your wife, you slap the ***** straight, and if husband, you chop their jacobs off.
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I don't like controllers. I wouldn't accept being controlled. I think both partners have to be sensible. That's all.