Controlling diet of your Child!

[queen_24]

Re: Controlling diet of your Child!

@Insaf ka tarazu

It is not healthy emotionally for the girl if adults judge her physique so harshly. She needs to be surrounded by kind and positive adults.

@prototype

if not this, it is gheebah !! stay away from it and bachi kay niwaalay ginn-na bund karo

@somegroovychick

This is a ridiculous thread. Maybe you didn’t mean to sound gossipy and harsh, but that’s how you come across, and not like someone genuinely interested in her good health. Bringing this up with her mother or her is an awful idea- what would you say? Clearly the parents are aware and you are probably just going to join a long line of people telling them they have an overweight child. How is that helpful? As for her: she’s 9!!! I am positive she would feel nothing but awful. And like others have said, you made zero effort to promote healthy eating in your home when she came over and yet you have no issues discussing her weight as if she’s a sideshow at a circus.

If you aren’t willing to help her and her parents genuinely and commit to it for the long run, stay out of it. The bottom line is, it’s none of your business. You don’t know if there are other issues involved and what, if anything, the parents are doing about it. Maybe all the child hears are negative comments about her appearance and this is her way of coping. Poor kid! And to be publicly reprimanded over wanting dessert! Good God.

This is very much a Life1 thread.

LOl, I am so much surprised about how a lot of people are less capable of thinking out of the Circle. If you all were reading the entire conversation, S02 has already raised the point and I cleared her that, it was not that I meant and I really didn’t mean to insult anyone, be it in front or at the back. I discussed the issue because I really wanted to do something for the Girl without bringing it into her mother’s or her knowledge. But I see, how a lot of people are capable to make it a Life1 thread. I don’t think if one clears an issue, should be said again and again. So yes, at this point, I really don’t care how a lot of you feel about me that I intended to insult her, gheebat her and blah blah, because, that’s what you think and that’s not what I am going to clear here. I know what I thought, I know the purity of my concerns! I might have come across the way you people think but I literally cleared it in S02 reply and therefore I don’t feel necessary to reexplain it.

About healthy food. If skipped reading, I already mentioned, they were not invited guests and luckily I already had been cooking Biryani since before I knew they are gonna come, they just called 5 minutes before telling they are almost near to my house and called to check if I were at home. Because they are like good family members, I don’t mind their sudden arrival, I could have even prepared a little more meal but just can’t due to my 7th Month Pregnancy. Can’t be that quick. So yes, preparing a healthy food for the kid wasn’t possible at that moment. Yes, but a lot of times before, I have prepared healthy food for the girl with less spices and light sandwiches and vegetables. But she always asked me separately, Aunty kuch aur khana hay, mujhay roti khaani hay etc. & truly speaking, I never had problems with it nor do I have any problems hosting my guests. It’s not about zada khana banana, it’s just about the health issues.

I have tried engaging her in different activities including giving her some books to read, playing her an animated movie and even providing her some board games (that she can play with her brother). She plays for a while and comes to me in the Kitchen to ask how much time is left with food to be prepared. That’s what I was talking about. She feels hunger. I don’t think she just loves eating but probably that’t the demand of her body.

I thank all of you who came across positive and didn’t judge me for my words but focused on the issue I wanted to share. Thanks for coming up as wise and understanding fellows.

And I will not mind anyone misjudging my intentions here, because truly speaking, that’s what this place has turned to be, lately.