**Its NOT about me. So please provide general replies
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I have seen many cases where a girl and guy were friends/ colleagues/ class fellows previously and then became a couple since they started liking each other, realised they had good understanding and that they could spend life with each other.
But somehow things didn’t work and they broke up. They might have been in relationship for few months or years before finally breaking up with each other.
Now after the break up, they still are friends with each other, didn’t remove each other from chats, facebooks, mobile contacts etc and keep in touch with each other through any of these medium.
How can a girl and guy take a u-turn to be ONLY friends again after they had considered each other their life partner/ fiance/ spouse etc? Can they have good friendships again after their breakup?
Are people more practical these days or is social pressure (their common friends) is the reason for being friends again to someone they broke up with? Do they want to take another chance by continuing their friendship to see whether they can again try to be in a relationship (depending on the reason of their break up)?
I think it's really tricky to go back to being friends. Your conversations had a more flirtatious/intimate feel to them.....and it can be tough to adjust those interactions and bring them down to a "friendship" level. The change in dynamics and perceptions is frustrating.
Having mutual friends may be a reason to keep in touch. There may OR may not be a desire to give things another shot. While it may not be impossible, I imagine that it's harder to get things back to that level again.
im still friends with my ex. It happens all the time. We're in the best place we've ever been.There is much more of a mutual understanding. But if we hadnt gone through the relationship, break up, etc etc we wouldnt be where we are. We had to go there, to get to here. Make sense?? What im saying is that everything happens for a reason and its up to you to take the positives from it.
Depends on what you mean by the friendship, you can keep someone on your facebook and comment on their photos and talk from time to tiem...then there's actually seeing each other physically and hanging out all the time...
but I think that constantly hanging out and being close kind of friendship after a breakup exists only in television/movies.
It definitely takes a while . But there is no need to I guess. The while could be as long as it takes for any modicum of remnant romantic emotion to be erased from their heart and mind.
im still friends with my ex. It happens all the time. We're in the best place we've ever been.There is much more of a mutual understanding. But if we hadnt gone through the relationship, break up, etc etc we wouldnt be where we are. We had to go there, to get to here. Make sense?? What im saying is that everything happens for a reason and its up to you to take the positives from it.
same here...my "ex" and I were best friends, a very innocent and pure friendship (i totally believe that he was my "soulmate") started blossoming into something more...unfortunately, his mother had other plans for his marriage (engaged at birth to his mamoo's daughter) and throught the whole messed up drama that insued, the most devestating part was the end of our friendship...we parted on very bad terms..He of course ended up marrying his cousin, I ended up marrying his friend (we were all in the same social circle in college) fast forward 10 years....when he heard that both of my parents passed away, he found my contact info and called me with his condolences...it was honestly exactly what I needed at that time...my best friend was back! the years of bitterness and anger/hurt/confusion were gone and two friends reconnected. i can honestly say no past "intimate feelings" or anything of the sort resurfaced..we are both happily married and agreed that we both ended up with the right people. He now lives out of state, so it's not like we see each other or anything, but on my birthday i'll get a text message, or evey now and then an email and I'm content knowing that my dearest, closest friend in the world is still there for me should I ever need him...
My husband respects the fact that we talked and worked out the demons of the past, but obviously, out of respect for him, I don't blurt out "guess who i talked to today!"....
same here...my "ex" and I were best friends, a very innocent and pure friendship (i totally believe that he was my "soulmate") started blossoming into something more...unfortunately, his mother had other plans for his marriage (engaged at birth to his mamoo's daughter) and throught the whole messed up drama that insued, the most devestating part was the end of our friendship...we parted on very bad terms..He of course ended up marrying his cousin, I ended up marrying his friend (we were all in the same social circle in college) fast forward 10 years....when he heard that both of my parents passed away, he found my contact info and called me with his condolences...it was honestly exactly what I needed at that time...my best friend was back! the years of bitterness and anger/hurt/confusion were gone and two friends reconnected. i can honestly say no past "intimate feelings" or anything of the sort resurfaced..we are both happily married and agreed that we both ended up with the right people. He now lives out of state, so it's not like we see each other or anything, but on my birthday i'll get a text message, or evey now and then an email and I'm content knowing that my dearest, closest friend in the world is still there for me should I ever need him...
My husband respects the fact that we talked and worked out the demons of the past, but obviously, out of respect for him, I don't blurt out "guess who i talked to today!"....
First of all hats off to your husband for understanding. But i can definetly relate to what you went through. The only drama we really had was what happens in an average relationship, but we worked through it. Sorry to hear that your relationship ended on a sour term. I dont like this notion that ex's can NEVER be friends. Its not like you enter a relationship the first day you set eyes on someone. You must have been friends somewhere down the line. I dont see why it would be soo difficult to re kindle that friendship. If anything, there would be more of a mutual understanding now that we know each other better. This whole getting married according to familes will - it needs to stop. Its destroying lives ive seen it happen first hand.
It's a million dollar question........... i read somewhere......
**"When two people remain as friends after their relationship, its either they are still in love with each other or they never were"
**So i am still confused whey people go back to their friendship stage? I have seen a couple who were in love for almost 3 or 4 years and after breaking up they became friends again...... they are behaving like they are just friends NOW. Girl threw a surprise party for a guy who dumped her because he found another girl (but he couldn't married that girl too because her parents rejected him). What they are thinking actually. What they have in their minds rite now?
I haven't had a break up on rough terms so maybe that's why its been easier for me to stay civil.
I suppose its possible but a great determinant of that is the intensity of your relationship.
Its not terribly easy to realign your feelings but its not terribly difficult either.
So umm yeha, its possible.
I guess conitnuing friendship with an ex is very difficult. But when the ex was your friend before you both entered into the relationship, there might be some regret for losing the friendship because of the breakup. Both the parties might think that they lost their friendship in an attempt to transform their friendship into a relationship which might make them to go back to their friendship state. But I wonder how can they ignore the romantic feelings they once felt for each other. I thing its very difficult for them to not to be disloyal to their new partners if they keep on going with the friendships with their ex.
Also, continuing friendship is not as hurtful with an ex when you are engaged/ married since you have now a new person in your life who fulfils your ove needs. Continuting friendship with an ex when you both are single and looking seems suspicious to me
