I’m guilty of not keeping in touch with friends but then all of a sudden if some event or incident reminds me some ol’ buddy… I call him/her or send them an email…saying ..hey its been a while…Normally, I don’t get a good response (and most of the time I am prepared for it :-D) cuz people keep a grudge if you don’t keep in touch on a regular basis.
I am not sure if this grudge is justified…I don’t think it is important to give your friends a call every week to reassure that you are still friends…
How would you react if you get an email from an old friend after six months?
I'd be happy. That person has contacted me. However, if I haven't kept contact either (as usually happens, out of sight, out of mind), I wouldn't think I have the right to chew them out.
it's always nice to talk to old friends. i am going to meet my kuwait friends after several years now. we kept in touch through emails n stuff but its been a long time since we chatted face to face in person. it'll will be interesting to see them after such a long time. looking forward to it :-)
Gila shikwa sirf apnoan sey hi kiya jata hai :) So no worries if you contact them or they contact you after a long time. It would be more of a pleasant surprise!! And friends can stay friends even if they don't stay in touch frequently. I'm still in touch with my pals whom I've known since my KG days :D
I think it really depends on the kind of relationship I had with that particular friend.
It also depends on how you define friendship.
I'm realising that there are simply different kinds of friends and the relationships you have with people can change over time... and this can be either in good or bad way.
I have very few friends but I know alot of people and just about everyone conisiders me their close friend.
So if it was someone I considered a really close friend and it seems I am the one making all the effort to keep in touch... yeah I would be pretty hurt and angry! Eventually I would not even bother myself anymore ... and this has happened.
Friendships and relationships of any sort have got to be mutual. I think it's ok to expect something in return...esp if it's just the same consideration and sincerity you have shown them.
One of my friends... spent a lot of time in college, uni and then at my first job is back in Pak. Every six months or so... I get a two word email from him.... "zinda ho". Without fail, reply goes back "yup". And then khamoshi for another six months. Its kinda cute in its own way. When I go back to Pak, we have tonnes of fun together and its always as if the intervening years never happened.
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One of my friends... spent a lot of time in college, uni and then at my first job is back in Pak. Every six months or so... I get a two word email from him.... "zinda ho". Without fail, reply goes back "yup". And then khamoshi for another six months. Its kinda cute in its own way. When I go back to Pak, we have tonnes of fun together and its always as if the intervening years never happened.
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i dont have a …toucy story
but i had a friend of mine who i went to school with for about a year
and then he moved to another city and we kinda wrote letters back an forth and talked on the phone a couple of times…e-mail wasn’t that big back then
lol
so then earlier this year i was going through my old stuff and found one of his letters and his # was on it… so i called and
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well the # has changed
the operator gave me a new # and even that didnt work
it said it had been disconnected
so…hmmm
so this friend of mine goes off to USA....
finished his bsc, msc and gets a good management job....
visits bahrian in two years....
in between we never exchange emails and hardly ever talk on messenger....
phone calls on eid (either from him or me) exist and on other special occasions too....
but once back in bahrain we spend a lot (really a lot) of time together from whatever number of days he has to stay in bahrain....
I will be happy if i receive a email from a friend.
And like Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye said gila shikwa to
hote hai apno se so why listen to it lolz.
You know how much he/she missed you.
Quite recently I was contacted from someone I had been at school with after a good 4 or 5 years. Anyway we had a nice time catching up with each other, and good girly banter when I made the mistake of asking her how come she had contacted me after so long. 'Oh I had your number but I couldn't remember whether I liked you or not'.
There is NOTHING in the world similar to the feeling you get when you open your mailbox and you receive a handwritten letter from an old bachpan ki saheli. NOTHING in the world beats that feeling. i feel like the luckiest person on earth. i have friends i have not seen in over ten years - we are scattered into what feels like the four corners of the world: Minnesota, Karachi, Sargodha, Phillipines, Abu Dhabi, and Canada. But we TRY to stay in touch, if even a phone call now and then and a very late birthday card in the mail. It's not as frequent as it should be.
i miss them so much. Wish i could see them. Childhood friends are irreplaceable.
