Re: CONSTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE'S IDENTITY
thanks everybody. alysam you made an excellent point. adaptation is better and as everybody said, the core should not be changed.
unless one is severely wrong and is hurting oneself or others.
i would extend the argument of tolerence to acceptance.
i feel that we need to accept than simply half heartedly tolerate.
when something is genuinely validated and heard or responded to, then there is a better chance to even undo what one does wrongfully.
but when people have unsure personalities, and make alibis or succumb to their limitations, they remain in denials to their own disadvantage.
they are afraid o reach out to others. and they dont and cant build nor keep trust.
they are afraid and while they relfect their insecurities on others, they also distance themselves from happiness.
even when u try to help someone out of their biases, narrow minded ness or doubts, they dont accept that u are sincere to them and patient.
infact, they blame u for being persistent. because all they are wraped in is their limited thinking.
it hurts very much when u see it coming from those who u allowed to rely on u for emotional comfort. and they poke holes and make it ragged - that trust that u make them capable of.
be it age difference, geographic, national, creed, gender or faith based, as long as a person is decent and fair, even if change happens it will happen for the better and not for the worse.
and that is what we should look for and this is the kind of effect we should have on each other as individuals and as members of communities and societies.
best,
Dushwari