ok i know i post the most useless and stupid topics in the world but i just have a quick question. suppose you’re mad at your spouse, or they’re mad at you, how long does it take for you or the other person to get over it, and be normal with each other again. how much consoling does it take on you part
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Let me read your journal
phit batati hoon. :D
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We hardly ever fight, but mostly its me who gets mad. My husband on the other hand, is coolheaded and starts smiling.. And u know smile is contegious (?) :)
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They? How many spouses do you have?
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well first both husband and wife should never let things go that far to begin with. but in certain cases if things do go that far then the best option/time to sort out differences and things is ASAP. no need to wait for the other person to take the first step. however, do make sure they don't take it as a weak point of yours.
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It takes a couple seconds. But we've never had a real fight.
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It depends on the nature of the fight, how stubborn the two involved are and if they have a huge sense of pride. If they are stubborn, then it is harder and takes much longer. Personally, I get over things fairly quickly but there are others who take a lonnnnnnnnng time to ‘heal’ and get over it and this makes it harder to be normal together cause you know the other person is still hurt despite your efforts to make things right. Just don’t give up, in a few days or so, it should be fine … I hope.
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Awww..... misread as 'controlling your spouse'.
I dont have anything to say on the actual topic :o
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Sorry for being a jerk!
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Aishaa2.1 is married aahmed.
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It takes a couple seconds. But we've never had a real fight.
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i dont have a hubby so i dont know how long it takes to get over it 
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Depends. I can stay mad FOREVER 
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With mine she controls all aspects of pre and post fight syndrome. We fight because she is in a pissy mood. Please note, I am not allowed to be upset, EVER. Then even if I try to make up (mind you, she started the fight 
), she either remains pissy or gets even more upset. Then after a few hours, she decides to make up and I have no right to remain upset.
So, she is the dictator.
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Sounds like a perfect arrangement FG.
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FG, change your location from 'muthi mae' to 'jooti ke neechae'.
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It would make it soo much easier if wife tells you what's bothering her instead of phoolafying her face and staying in a bad mood for a prolonged time. Otherwise the guessing game never ends and makes it very difficult to get her in a good mood. Luckily she snapps out of it all of a sudden as if nothing ever happened. But the period when she is depressed are very hard to deal with and very painful (for me).
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just a few mins.
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If and only if you were not married 
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my husband is Extremely sensitive! So he gets upset very easily on things that I don't even know that he is upset about. He just completely stops talking to me when he is upset and after 24 hours when I realize that he is upset then I try to figure out the missing piece of the puzzle. i.e. what made him upset. His no communication spell has lasted anywhere from 4 months to a couple of days. Let's see what happens when we are actually living together. It varies from time to time as to who breaks the silence. We don't yell or scream. It is just total silence. Very bizarre. Something that I'm still trying to figure out a way to solve :)