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^i was saying people who never opened Quran, most definitely gonna give u this Ahl-e-kitab reasoning. otherwise who have read Quran and also knows about other Holybook and their unoriginality can easily differentiate between the two.
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^ you are absolutely right
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Can we justify a bad deed with another bad deed?
In your logic, there is nothing wrong in eating pork if we drink wine.
opposite to what you mentioned above, my logic is that if eating stolen(or free of cost) park is not haram in one's eye then why he considers it haram to go and buy pork from a shop.
How is it a bad deed to go on to marry? Am pretty sure it's better to marry the person you're dating than dump them then marry someone else - in terms of religion as well..
agree with you and here is what i tell my "muslim" friends "why the hell you are doing every thing with that girl but when it comes to getting married to tumhari musalmani jaag jati hay"
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I think you missed the point, I did't not say " getting married is somehow bad".
Marrying a non-Muslim is not happily permitted in our religion, that makes it "bad", on the other hand dating is pavement to illicit relationship which is , of course, is bad also.
You are only comparing the evils and opting for a lesser one.
But we do have the concept of the lesser of the two evils in Islam..
Regarding 'people of the book' a lot of imams do allow this sort of marriage so fair enough if you don't believe in it but at least acknowledge there's a difference of opinion.
"It is better to marry a Muslim Salve girl than a non-Muslim" ( Al-Quran)
Doesn't your quote simply indicate it's 'better' to a marry a Muslim woman.. not that a Muslim man marrying a non-Muslim woman is haram or not allowed.
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What are the consequences? Well firstly as you can see the Mullah brigade will get on their high horse and ***** at you. But then they will defend bacha-bazi. 
Also you will have a healthy normal marriage inshallah and all the desi women will ***** behind your back that “what he couldn’t find a nice muslim girl to marry”.
Your wife will have to deal with the desi aunties and their catty and snarky comments.
All and all you will be very happy but the general desi community will be out to nit-pick at everything you do.
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You may marry a non-muslim girl with the agreement that you will still lead on your Muslim life... but when you have children, your children are not just yours, they are hers as well. The love and bond between a mother and child is obviously very strong. So maybe she will raise them in a non-muslim manner because Islam may not suit her way of life (the clothing, the food etc.). For example, if your daughter/son wishes to date or wear a bikini in the summer and you are against it, unless the mother feels that it is wrong she is going to allow her child to date or dress a certain way for the sake of their happiness and comfort. If she has to, she may go against you to stand up for her children.
as a pro, you could give her a good example of Muslims and convert her
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It goes without saying that all this will happen in your dreams.
I am really sad to see how easy has it become to malign any and every who will read from the Book.
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But we do have the concept of the lesser of the two evils in Islam..
Regarding 'people of the book' a lot of imams do allow this sort of marriage so fair enough if you don't believe in it but at least acknowledge there's a difference of opinion.
"It is better to marry a Muslim Salve girl than a non-Muslim" ( Al-Quran)
Doesn't your quote simply indicate it's 'better' to a marry a Muslim woman.. not that a Muslim man marrying a non-Muslim woman is haram or not allowed.
"Marrying a non-Muslim is not happily permitted in our religion"
I already mentioned that........
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probably better sex..
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@gora Kala or whoever you are...
You do make sense..sometimes. :)
probably better sex..
LOL..
Have to give you that one because the way you said that.
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probably better sex..
i do not agree. next you will say a muslim woman would be only good at cooking and cleaning.
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i do not agree. next you will say a muslim woman would be only good at cooking and cleaning.
Actually all women are born with the innate knowledge of cooking and cleaning.
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***What can I say…
Barak Hussien Obama II …is a good example in real life…most even doubt he is Christian
La Ikraha fe Deen…
Although his parents did have similarities in where they each were from…
Barak Hussien Obama Senior was from …Kenya
Stanley Ann Dunham was from…Kansas :)***
Re: Consequences of marrying a non-muslim girl
Consequences are for her only, and not the Muslim man I think.
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My mom isn't muslim. And in our family that haven't never caused any problems. My dad asked when they got married that if my mom wants to convert but she didnt want so dad let it be cause like he says its pointless to convert if u dont ur-self believe in Islam and think that its right way to live. Changing religion in paper is easy but in mind is not that easy and u cant force anyone to change her/his beliefs.
My mom respects my dads and ours religion. And she knows for example that to my dad is really important that she doesn't eat pork so she doesn't eat. And also she respects that fact that my dad doesn't like her to wear really revealing clothing and she doesnt wear. And since we have born it has been clear that our, children religion is Islam. But we had kind a religion free childhood. Of course dad has taught basic things about Islam but otherwise it hasn't been huge part of our childhood mainly cause my dad isnt really religious. For me religion has become bigger part of my life after I turn 15 and I have myself been more interested about Islam and finding and asking more about it. Im glad that we had kind a religious free childhood, so now I think religion is maybe more important to me. I know im far from perfect muslim and never will be really religious but im learning new things about Islam all the time, its still part of my life and trying my best to live like proud muslim :)
I think if u are going to marry non-muslim girl, respect towards each other is most important thing. If she doesnt understand and respect ur religion and values its not gonna work out. And probably if u are really religious, marriage with non-muslim doesn't work out.
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My mom isn't muslim. And in our family that haven't never caused any problems. My dad asked when they got married that if my mom wants to convert but she didnt want so dad let it be cause like he says its pointless to convert if u dont ur-self believe in Islam and think that its right way to live. Changing religion in paper is easy but in mind is not that easy and u cant force anyone to change her/his beliefs.
My mom respects my dads and ours religion. And she knows for example that to my dad is really important that she doesn't eat pork so she doesn't eat. And also she respects that fact that my dad doesn't like her to wear really revealing clothing and she doesnt wear. And since we have born it has been clear that our, children religion is Islam. But we had kind a religion free childhood. Of course dad has taught basic things about Islam but otherwise it hasn't been huge part of our childhood mainly cause my dad isnt really religious. For me religion has become bigger part of my life after I turn 15 and I have myself been more interested about Islam and finding and asking more about it. Im glad that we had kind a religious free childhood, so now I think religion is maybe more important to me. I know im far from perfect muslim and never will be really religious but im learning new things about Islam all the time, its still part of my life and trying my best to live like proud muslim :)
I think if u are going to marry non-muslim girl, respect towards each other is most important thing. If she doesnt understand and respect ur religion and values its not gonna work out. And probably if u are really religious, marriage with non-muslim doesn't work out.
Fantastic answer Jazz89. I have the upmost respect for someone that put forward their story. Its seems your parents esp your dad has fulfilled his duty to at least educate his children about Islam.. some parents do not even bother with that..
The reason I asked the question was I recently went to a wedding where the gora gentlemen decided to convert for her and not for islam... it kind of got me thinking.. if it were the other way around and what the consquences were.
Re: Consequences of marrying a non-muslim girl
My mom isn't muslim. And in our family that haven't never caused any problems. My dad asked when they got married that if my mom wants to convert but she didnt want so dad let it be cause like he says its pointless to convert if u dont ur-self believe in Islam and think that its right way to live. Changing religion in paper is easy but in mind is not that easy and u cant force anyone to change her/his beliefs.
My mom respects my dads and ours religion. And she knows for example that to my dad is really important that she doesn't eat pork so she doesn't eat. And also she respects that fact that my dad doesn't like her to wear really revealing clothing and she doesnt wear. And since we have born it has been clear that our, children religion is Islam. But we had kind a religion free childhood. Of course dad has taught basic things about Islam but otherwise it hasn't been huge part of our childhood mainly cause my dad isnt really religious. For me religion has become bigger part of my life after I turn 15 and I have myself been more interested about Islam and finding and asking more about it. Im glad that we had kind a religious free childhood, so now I think religion is maybe more important to me. I know im far from perfect muslim and never will be really religious but im learning new things about Islam all the time, its still part of my life and trying my best to live like proud muslim :)
I think if u are going to marry non-muslim girl, respect towards each other is most important thing. If she doesnt understand and respect ur religion and values its not gonna work out. And probably if u are really religious, marriage with non-muslim doesn't work out.
Exactly the same situation here...and religion has never been an issue. If anything, I feel that it taught me to be tolerant of others with different beliefs, not judgemental, as I always saw my parents get along and not argue about it. My father is not that religious to start with, but it was important for him that I be Muslim. He would bring me to the Mosque when I was younger just to get me acquainted by it. Again, when I was about 16, I started to take a bigger interest in Islam, as I felt like it was part of my identity and something I needed to explore further. Anyhow, I loved the way I was raised. My mother would celebrate Eid with us, making a big deal out it for my dad, taking the time to buy me salwar kameez for the occasion and cookng pakistani food for us. And my father returned the favor by accompanying her to her family's house for christmas and easter because it was important to her. My parents are divorced today, but none of it had to do with culture or religion. I actually stayed with my mom for the 1st few yrs after the divorce and remained Muslim. Religion still is not an issue with them and this year my mom even invited him over for Eid. She is the one that pushed me to go to Pakistan many years ago for the 1st time ect...Thats why I have such a hard time understanding such conflicts, because I grew up so far away from them.