Well… instead of creating 2-3 different threads, thought to sum-up all here…
**1. My fiance as well as I don’t like Mehendi at all… But either my mom or my SIL wont convince on bride-without mehendi… Bride WITH mehendi on barat is ok.. but neither me nor my partner could bear mehendi too longer… So any ideas to wipe off every single spot of mehendi from your hands atleast right after your barat day? **
2. My fiance asked me that I suggest him what he should wear on Nikkah (I have Nikkah first), and I asked to go for a suit with a tie matched with my suit… BUTTTTTTTTTTT is this that the groom’s suit in neutral colors (blues,greys,black) or that too have any connection with brides suit color?! I am good in deciding MY things, never noticed groom’s fashion:S
3. How to make Nikkah event exciting? What can be the possible rasms there? (I will have shadi right two months after Nikkah, so I asked my siblings/cousins not to go for any dodh-pilai/jota chupai etc etc)
1- You can look for a fake mehndi pen online. Not sure what it's called but I saw someone use it. It looked exactly like mehndi but it wipes off with rubbing alcohol.
2-The groom's suit can be any color. There are no rules. Of course it depends on what looks good on him. Yes, it's a very nice compliment when any element of his attire matches your clothes. So that's good advice. Go with that..!
3- There are no rasms on a nikkah. A nikkah is a religious, holy event and I personally don't believe there should be any irrelevant rasms during it. Others can disagree -- that's just my opinion.
What you are talking about, dood pilai, jota chupai is all on the baraat day. And if you're having a direct valima (rukhsati), it is best suited for that day.
I feel a nikkah is the most meaningful, precious, pure and holy part of a muslim wedding. Any task performed that day should be with the true spirit of a nikkah.
I am personally going to have a big wedding but before, we're going to have a small nikkah, with the elders of the family, in a nice mosque. I've always wanted it that way and having it in a mosque highlights the holyness of it :)
Of course, at the end of the day, it's your event so do whatever makes you happy :)
*1. Could you help me in finding that pen? Any link?!
2. That's what I said him, go with the color you don't have
3. Ofcourse we will have all that TYPICAL rasms at shadi... even I have designed my outfit totally different and simple (just to have a enhanced wedding look) yet I want to have some exciting rasms (dont know what)
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Try this. This is a ‘‘tattoo’’ pen. Once you put it on, it’ll look like those arabic henna that’s really black. Put some glitter in the designs and add color. You can surely be creative with the glitter to make it look even more realistic. It comes off clean with soap and water but won’t stain clothes or run if your hands get sweaty. Also, get simpler designs. Something that goes from the wrist to the index finger (top side of the hand) and then fill in some glitter.
i always ask my fiance wat should i wear ...or keep telling him that ive bought these kinds of clothes etc ...we bought my enagegment cloths ,shadi valima cloths together i mean he was wiv us while we were shopping ...n he was suggesting wat should i buy
a nikkah needn't be just you and your witnesses in the masjid with a maulvi.
someone i know did it very well- it was set up like a gora ceremony with chairs lined up on either side of an aisle. they had a stage too. he walked up first with his parents and sat on stage. she followed with hers. the qazi took the podium and gave a lovely speech/explanation/dua of/for the nikkah and its significance, and then in front of everyone, asked them if they accepted. it was a proper ceremony and it got its proper significance, imho. its really the meat and potatoes of your entire marriage- it should be more than a small ceremony for immediate family only... but thats just how i see it :)
they followed the nikkah with a dinner for everyone and the bride and groom were able to mingle and receive congratulations from everyone which was really nice too.
some people prefer to keep it intimate and thats fine too, but you asked for ways to make it special and i think having a celebration does that.
some indian stores sell these henna tattos...so called...
basically its pretty pre-designed mehndi, that you apply as you would those sticker tattoos....place tattoo on hand, put wet sponge on top for 30 seconds, and it is applied to your hands. That is what I used for my mehndi as my wedding was a week later in paki land.
just wondering do brides ask their fiance' what should they wear... i mean normally we wear what we like,rite..? guys not interested may b....
Bit of topic though. At least I did care. Though I never took him along in the shopping (its not possible neither my family would ever allow me), but when he asked me to go with his sister to purchase suits of my choice, i thought what if I ask him what color he likes to give him the privelege (later i purchased what I liked. lol) In the same tken, he asked me what should he wear and what in what color.
a nikkah needn't be just you and your witnesses in the masjid with a maulvi.
someone i know did it very well- it was set up like a gora ceremony with chairs lined up on either side of an aisle. they had a stage too. he walked up first with his parents and sat on stage. she followed with hers. the qazi took the podium and gave a lovely speech/explanation/dua of/for the nikkah and its significance, and then in front of everyone, asked them if they accepted. it was a proper ceremony and it got its proper significance, imho. its really the meat and potatoes of your entire marriage- it should be more than a small ceremony for immediate family only... but thats just how i see it :)
they followed the nikkah with a dinner for everyone and the bride and groom were able to mingle and receive congratulations from everyone which was really nice too.
some people prefer to keep it intimate and thats fine too, but you asked for ways to make it special and i think having a celebration does that.
Things are pretty different in Pakistan. Like i have Nikkah few months before my shadi. No matter how simple we want to make it, but the Elders in the family are still in the view that "Nikkah hi asal cheez hoti ha".. the fnction is bit bigger than engagement and pretty smaller than a shadi... like we have booked a hall, first cousins from both sides, round tables arranged for the guests, typical stage etc.Though I am not in favour of proper Nikkah ceremony (signing the papers) in front of all, (tears will ruin your face in front of all)
ok, for my walima i used stick on mehndi....and it looks great...my saas bought it from kuwait..sure u can get loads in pakistan or in UK...u put water on ur hand and stick it on like a tatoo and it looks better than mehndi even and has no smell...u can take it off with nail polish remover later..but can last up 2 a week if u dnt want it to come off...everyone loved my mehndi on walima more than my barat coz it was so glittery...hope thats helps
i like the aisle idea for a nikkah ceremony but it is slight copying of he kafiroon so i am a bit wary of doing that in a mosque. maybe i could book a large room in a hotel or something like that.
i was thinking of hiring a penthouse suite in a chelsea harbour hotel in london and inviting family and friends and having the nikah there followed by an intimate meal in one of the dining rooms downstairs.
do you think islamically that could suffice or do we still need to do a walima afterwards. i really dont want to have a big wedding. im nto into it but i do belive some sort of eclebration of the marriage is good.
well in a mosque you’re usually segregated anyway, so i don’t think that would work.
as for the aisle thing, it was a nice way of involving the guests in the nikkah process, and making a ceremony out of, well, the ceremony. its an alternative option i guess.
and actually, i think this couple did the same thing looking at their pics so this
sort of illustrates the idea- Taimur Ali Ahmed’s Photos Taimur Ali Ahmed’s Photos
your idea sounds great with the penthouse suite!
as for the valima… hrm… i dunno, isn’t it meant to be on the day after nikkah for it to qualify as a valima?
