this is the first time i am posting something to any forum. I am very confused about something and want to know people around can help me with any good suggestions.
Since I was a child I always wanted to join Army, my parents initially took it as an ordinary child’s wish but when I grew up, they realised how serious I am to be a part of it. As I am the only son to my parents, they do not want me to join it at any cost and I am really p-----off. How can I make them understand of what I feel about my career? please suggest.
Baba, I think its an age old thing and a huge problem in our culture that our parents do not let children choose a profession of choice and eventually if they manage to force the child to do what they want, the child remains unhappy through out their life because of their career.
Because you feel so passionately for a career in Army, please do follow it through , because it will give you utmost happiness one day .. as far as parents are concerned they may have reservations at the moment but eventually when they will see you happy and successful in life inshallah, they will find peace as well ..
so dont create any fuss in long conversations at home, just try to stay passionate and follow the route into Army.. but if your parents are creating alot of fuss about this , then the best way is to keep repeating to them what you happiness is ... sometimes staying adamant can help :)
I have taken all possible steps to convice them. They are just opposing me because I am their only son. So what if I am? means I will have no choice for me for anything? I cant hurt them too as their hopes are higher too. I am in stress these days.
What alternative career choices they give you ? You can be a doctor and work for military in a military hospital. You can do PHD in military studies and teach at a military college and fulfill your dream and make them happy too by not being part of combat part of military.
It was my dream since I was a kid. I had a friend in grade 4th who's father was a military person. he was a great man too. He often used to come with his son to the school. I was inspired by him, I used to like his uniform, his bravery, how people around used to respect him, how great hearted he was. I had to change my school for some reasons and couldnt stay in contact with him. Never knew this military/ Army will inspire me deeply and as i grew up I decided to be a part of it after a detailed thought. Discussed it with my parents but they have said a blunt No. :(
Baba, I gave up on my dream due to parental pressure and believe me till date i regret it , i havnt forgotten it at all and often become so sour about it , i dont hesitate in letting them know .. what i mean to say is that this is a life long thing to lose on a dream , desi parents dont realize how their pressure can affect the lives of their children ..
I say that if you really passionately feel so strongly for Army, then stay adamant and dont give into your parents pressure ... Do what you have to , to qualify yourself and pursue it seriously .. all parents feel proud of their kids when they see them successful and happy in life ... i am positive your parents will live with it when in the future they see you content with your life ...
Plus keep in mind, being in the army is nothing short of leading a courageous, respectful life , its a very strong cause and definitely not for ordinary people but for special people with strong motivation ...
you can always tell your parents that they let you join Army , if after a few years you feel that Army is not giving you the success you seek in your career, you can always return to your family business ...