from the last one month i am thinking only one thing should i get a baby now or not.. i dont know why this is confusing me.. sometimes i think im not ready but when i see the babies aroud me i really wished to get one as soon as possible… i love kids..only onething scared me i cannot stand near medecines and injections i really vomit when i take medecines i hate them.. and the second thing though i am married but i am not matured enough still have teenagers mind.. all this bother me.. i am really very caring for my baby i dont want my baby have negative effect of what i think and do during pregnancy …
i still did not decide what to do.. i discussed with my hubby he said sure we will have a baby just realx and take your time… try to makeup your mind
( i have no baby pressure from my in laws or husband)
what should i do? should i go for a baby now or should i wait…?
salam tab how are u , i missed u much , im in holidays now so as i missed this forum i connect again, then i found ur topic , well , i agree babies are treasures , when we (women) see them we want to have one , its natural to have this desire especially when we are married .
just relax ur mind and let it in the hands of Allah .
u talked about maturity , i answer u : u are very mature mashAllah even if u are young , i know u very well, u will be good mother !
for medecines and injections u have to be patient ,its necessary things !
ok take care! and i hope we chat again
You will have doubts especially when you are pregnant and close to your due date. I didn't think I was ready either, but everyone gets cold feet. Having said that, I suggest that since you don't have any pressure to have a baby soon, wait until you feel like you're 100% ready. Don't rush into this just b/c you see a baby and want to have one too. That's not a good enough reason to have a baby. Baby's are a huge responsibility, so you have to make sure that you are willing to sacrifice a lot to take care of it.
also, you will have to deal with medicines and injections during labour no matter wat. Better get used to the idea from now.
same kind of thread couple days before too and I just wana say that
get a chance do not think when and when and when, dont know who is going to get or whome not, there is too many couples who those dont have that chance even they try hard to have a baby...
Clearly your not ready, Firstly you wouldnt be asking on GS if YOU shud hav a baby. (You shud know yourself)
Secondly you already stated you have a teenage mind, So i wud strongly advice you not to have one until atleast your mind is mature enough.
and thirdly if you have no pressure from your husband or inlaws, then jus wait until your mind is mature and you are mature.
Because clearly your not.
If you feel you are ready to have a child and properly nurture him/her....do it.
Life is differnet for everyone. If you see other people with children and you dont have one, does that mean you SHOULD have one? No. If I see ten people bungee jumping, does that mean I should do it too? No.
You dont make decisions in life because other people are doing it too...you make them based on your life, goals, significant other, etc.
It's the biggest decision of your life, and could be the most fulfilling but ultimately that decision needs to be yours.
All I can say is that couples have all different things to consider before bringing a new life into this world i.e. emotional, domestic, financial and long term issues...or some couples don't consider these at all !
I don't think anyone on GS can advise you whether you are ready or not.
ed but i am not matured enough still have teenagers mind.. all this bother me.. i am really very caring for my baby i dont want my baby have negative effect of what i think and do during pregnancy ...
for now concentrate fixing this. I have one of my friend's aunt she is old , and still acts like teenager. I tell you dude. Its so un kool.
She has this weird way of keeping kids(male) around her. Its just ugly.
She cheats too, think she is living out her life.
U know what was worst when she put on song from a 1903 and danced around the house.
Her butt always reminded me of that net/bag in which we use to carry two soccer balls ewwwwww
But she was good cook :D
She was bad for her own family and unfaithful for her hubby but fun for every one else.