At a time when he is usually at home and u r usually at home, make it a regular habit to go out on your own WITHOUT HIM at least once a week, preferably twice. Leave the kids with him.
Go out for at least 2 hours, 3 or 4 would b better.
Of course don't just do this in a huff. Tell him this is what u r going to do. TELL him, don't dilly dally and wilt like a daisy if he says no the first time.
Sounds like u need some kind of interest outside the house yourself. U need a distraction to stop this internal strife.
If u like poetry, painting etc, c if u can join an evening class or something, that will b your time.
Also it seems the husband may b taking your presence in the home for granted, so if u go out, he will begin to appreciate u.
- he never stayed alone at home with kids.. and will never do that. 2.yes i have been taking classes and will continue again... its not the solution to my problem but you are right it helps