kaun
October 1, 2008, 11:02am
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i like this one
thanx guys, it really meant a lot,
khair out of all the replies i wanna point to one response and that was of AMIRSHAHZAD
Okay, now I know I’m a guy, but I’m seeing a lot of negatives here for the girl being bashed unnecessarily.
Looking at the entire story, you have to really look into details and not stereotype a situation or someone. At first that girl was in love with you, she finds out your lies and gets heartbroken, marries someone else. For obvious reason, things don’t work out with the other someone, or at least not as good as one would expect from their marriage to be.
Lastly, she also isnt over you, and tries to convince herself to just be friends with you at least. Then she discovers you have feelings for her too, and she doesn’t want things to go bad as her situation now is ‘still legally married not divorced’, and being a good girl, she doesn’t want any wrong or guilt.
So basically she doesnt know about your other girl, she doesnt know she’s creating any problem in your life by just being a friend.
First of all you need to really sit and think and rationalise your true feelings, what you feel for whom. You have two options if you think about sorting this whole thing out after that:
If you still love your EX, tell her the truth. Tell her how you were considering this other potential GF for a relationship/marriage or whatever. But that your preference would have been her if she were not married. So if she tells you she loves you still too, then ask her to honestly tell you if she thinks her marriage is expected to work out and whether she would return to her husband or she wants to leave him and marry you. If she decides the latter then you should know that you have to be man enough to stick by her and through it.
If she tells you she doesnt have any more feelings for you and wants to work on working things out with her husband, then support her decision but tell her you cannot be her friend anymore because you have feelings for her and it gets in the way of you seeing anyone else quite potentially as you would have otherwise. So say Khuda Hafiz gently and wish her best.
thats what I would do in your situation
I know neither of the above are gonna be easy for you, but hey, life’s a *****!
BRO as far as ur suggestion goes it is really good but the fact is that I told her that i like someone else and that i am going to tell her soon so basically i did not give my EX any signs or reasons that we will or should be back.
SUBMISSION boss i agree with wat you said, My imaan is weak and thus here i am confused…
PSQUARED thanx ur suggestion makes a whole lotta sense
Khair at the end of the day there are a lotta things to consider but saali yeh yaadein aadmi kee vaat laga detee hain. Khair thanxi got a clear sign and msg that its time somehow MOVE ON.I dunno how but lekin yeh koshish bhi kar key dekh hee letey hain
