confused

[amana]

Re: confused

I completely agree with you. Before we were married, my husband was “engaged” to his cousin. He did absolutely nothing to encourage this engagement and told everyone who would listen that he was not going to marry her. His parents and grandparents refused to break it off, and when he was old enough and told his uncle that he couldn’t marry her, his uncle said that he couldn’t go back on his parents’ decision. Well, he could and he did. While I feel sorry for his cousin, there is no one to blame but the supposedly “wise” elders in this situation.

I don’t feel sorry for your mother, she brought this on her own head, and she should feel obligated to do the right thing to protect her son. Why on earth people worry more about their brothers and sisters than they do their own children is beyond me.

I would expect that even if your brother tells your uncle no, he isn’t going to accept that answer. It will have to come from your parents.

@Orpheus

…for the life of me i dont know why parents do this.
as harsh and cold has this may sound, i have no sympathy for ya mother, i mean c’mon what the heck were they thinking (or lack of it) in trying to get thier son engaged at 16. Why burden a yound kid with such responsibility at that age.

You too who have played ya part in this mess, by lying to your cousin that your brother accepts (all the time knowing that his heart wasn’t in it) you and your mom should have been honest to all parties and not stringing them along.

The fact of the matter is your parents were acting selfish and just thinking of themselves, i can go on, but i won’t. You reap what you sow in this life, they created this mess, now they can deal with it. Its un-fortunate your brother is the victim here.