Confused...

Career

I love teaching, but I can’t do it forever, I want to do my PhD but the need to keep your research ongoing is going to be a pain. I really don’t know what I’d like to do.

When I first started out I wanted to be a lawyer, but there weren’t any law schools in Dubai. Then I thought let me be a surgeon, but I don’t think I can take the trauma of an emergency room, I’m waaaay to emotional for my own good.

Then I wanted to be a shrink, but my mom said I need one first! So I did an It related degree and now almost done with MBA, I still don’t know what I want to do with my life.

I get bored easily, I hate stagnation and repetition, though I love my job I know I won’t be loving it after a year.

What do I like to do? I like to talk, I like presenting, I like studying, learning new things, which leads me to believe that maybe doing my PhD isn’t such a bad thing and maybe I’d like the constant learning and researching.

I dunno…me confused…:frowning:

Love life

I dunno if it exists really, from friends, to fond friends, to really close friends, he gave me the most amazing birthday card, telline me how I’m this amazingly supportive, sweet, wise and gentle woman.

I’m the one he rings up when something good or bad happens. We talk about everything. There I times I look at him and it all seems like it’s come together and other times when I think..naah we’re just pals. This " I don’t know" thing is driving me mad.

Never knew liking someone could be this hard. :frowning:

Gym

Ohh this is the most frustrating part, it’s been a good 2 months and the scale only budged 6lbs, and I have never exercised so hard in my life, disappointed? VERY!

Fell sick twice, but didn’t stop even for a day, but still I got less results than the other ladies at gym.

I need to cut down on more calories, I might as well just eat GRASS! :frowning:

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Perhaps it is time to move out of Dubai? Find a job in another country and you will be busy and entertained for a lot longer...

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I agree with Aishaa. Maybe it's time for a change:)

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Well I was born and brought up in Dubai, my family is here, I'm a 24 year old lady whose folks won't let go of me.

I had a scholarship at LSE but wasn't allowed to go, so that should tell you about the prospect of me leaving Dubai.

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LK, why not straight out ask the guy where the relationship is going. It might be hard to do so, but once you do it, you will have the peace of mind. This "not knowing" crap can be really unhealthy and cause emotional distress.

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true, i agree with Atlanta.. this "not knowing" syndrome can really make you depress.. i knw i am talking from experience.. i am still living it.. so just ask him.. :) and about the rest.. you think you get bored easily but if you actually try i am sure there is something that makes you really excited and you can choose that as your feild.. just my 2cents

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Actually the guy is the least of my worries, in fact it's the only thing that gets my brain cells working. :D

I hate being bored you know.

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LK, bored of what? bored of life? bored of work? (what sort of work do you do right now?)

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Teaching...bored of this uneventful life...

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hmm what other things interest you.. for example, does computers interest you? business? finance?..

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ACtually I've made a few short films just out of intrest, I always wanted to get into film making...acting, directing, al things theatrical...entertainment is what I love, everyone in school thought I;d go on to host my own show or something...sigh

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LK, here’s a —> :slight_smile: for you.

We all can be confused from time to time..so don’t worry.

Career- what you are mentioning can happen to anyone..infact, it happens to a lot of people including myself..We can get bored with monotonous life..so, to make teaching more interesting for you..think, in this way..you, get to meet and talk to other teachers..they come and go..so, meeting new people can be interesting. Also, having new students all the time also helps. Since you like research..how about you read about the subject you are teaching..so when you have to teach a lesson..read about how you can make the class interesting. How about you get all the brochures of universities and colleges in dubai..see what they offer..and start doing something part-time..maybe, you can take some general interest courses from time to time..if they are not available in academic places. I would suggest that you pick the local directly..try looking up something..lets say reiki..massage therapist..whatever..approach them..and ask if they can teach you something just for fun. How about volunteering at a professional once a week or once a month.

What field are you going to specializing in your MBA..i think..that you would enjoy being part of sales and campaign promotion or designing field..being part of advertising..since you enjoy presentations, talking to people, doing research..so basically i think you fit really good in marketing.

Maybe, you can do entertainment related things as a hobby. Read about them online and send you clips or short films to internet contests that held around the world..you’ll definately enjoy being part of them..even if its just for fun.

Love Life- we all like loving and supporting people as our friends so maybe, to him you are a friend..or it could be more. We humans are complex creatures..so the only way you’ll find out is by communication..talk to him.

Gym- everyone body’s mechanism is different..so if you have only lost 6 pounds..don’t worry about it..talk to some fitness trainer and ask them for their opinion and support. Read some fitness sites. Sometimes, we hit the point where the weight lose stops..but weight remains constant..to burn more calories than the regular workout..maybe, you have to change what you do..maybe, you have to play a sport one day..skip rope one day..walk one day..dance one day..etc. Chose an activity from the calorie burner charts available online and chose the activities that burn the most calorie..maybe, that will help. Don’t cutdown on your intake in terms of food.

Best of luck with everything :k:

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Regarding your weight loss, 6 lbs is still an achievement.......try carrying around the equivalent weight for a while and you'll soon appreciate how much it actually is.

It sounds like you're at a plateau stage now whereby your body is getting used to the exercise. You can increase the intensity of your workouts, not necessarilly by making them longer but just harder. Evaluate your eating habits, it may be that you're not consuming enough calories to keep your metabolism going effectively especially if you are exercising as well.

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Qurius, thanx sis, you always have great ideas. The career thing bugs me the most really and I'm gonna take what you said very seriously and try and apply them in my life.

Shahreen, I can't plateau just yet I still have 20 odd lbs to lose! But the eating thing yeah I'm goin to check with the dietiian at the gym tomorrow.

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lastknightess y dont u get into event management. i heard there is an institute which is offering courses in event management and giving chance of internship as well. are u interested in tht?

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career, phd can be very satisfying but at times frustrating experience. to teach u really dont need a phd. you can do that with a masters. but you cant do research. i just dont know if a phd is worth 5-6 yrs of ur life if you just want to teach with it.

love life, dump this guy right away. he talks to you about everything... or do you do most of the talking? if so he is probably bored out of his skull. a man's attention span is 5 mins tops... unless the topic is sex.

gym, u lost 6 lbs while working out... im surprised. you must not be lifting at all just cardio? cos you should be gaining muscle which weighs more. so i think thats a good thing. you burnt 6 lbs of fat. :)

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addi123 in dubai? where which and how..I think I'd actually like that!

lollypop man hs used to do most of the talkin but now it's 50/50 and that's teh best thing about him we can talk sensibly..he's mature, understanding gives me great advice and appreciates mine too.

Lolly pop cardio and weights, but more cardio arobics etc etc

as for PhD ...in a accredited universoty in Dubai u need to have a PhD if you are to lecture.

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PhD is a good idea so go for it. Thats my advice.

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last knightness.

don't get confused. think n think over unless u find the best solution as for ur carrer.

as forr love life n gym u need a lil management n luck maybe .

goodluck.