Re: confused @scared :(
i m 28 ....my mother in law told me this because i discuss this matter with her ....i think its funny for u guys to read n start making fun of other persons emotions
Re: confused @scared :(
i m 28 ....my mother in law told me this because i discuss this matter with her ....i think its funny for u guys to read n start making fun of other persons emotions
who is making fun :ASA:
Re: confused @scared :(
Ok two things.
- Parents are often sadly blind. They might have an overly good view of their kid.
Look I know that parents want the best for us, but even they are sometimes wrong. This is your life not there's.
- There are many ways to cheat on somebody. For example let's say he gives you his phone and changes it. Well then if he is cheating, he can very easily get a secret phone with planned minutes and tell his girlfriend about the new number.
Look. You saw a girl calling him on his phone. This is a fact. When you asked, he deleted this contact number before giving the phone to you. This is a fact. He also denied that he knew the girl in question yet he deleted the contact number right before giving it to you. This is a fact.
Unfortunately he does not want you to know THE GIRL WHO IS CALLING HIM. What could be the possible reasons why he doesn't wants this now?
Do people keep numbers of random callers THEY DO NOT KNOW?
I understand that it is very difficult to break off the relationship. Let me tell you though. It is going to be FAR FAR FAR WORSE, if you marry this guy, he gets you pregnant and tied to him with kids, and then he goes off and cheats while you can do NOTHING.
Re: confused @scared :(
I feel like he's trying to do the rright thing to get you over your insecurities, but really I am not in your shoes. You have to decide what is best for you. If you are the type of person who gets doubts easily, then you will always have a difficult time trusting people. Do what you think is best for you, because having doubts like this now, will only grow and ultimately eat you up from inside. You have to either change your way of thinking and come to terms with the situation, or try and find out more information until you are satisfied that you can move on. Whether he did something shady or not, you also need to become more secure with yourself as well. Good luck.
Re: confused @scared :(
No offense/joking meant...I asked you your age because the way your post is written, you sound like you a very young girl...I was guessing 18-20.
Anyhoo...there is a saying "don't go looking for trouble, and you won't find it"...you yourself said that you trust your fathers choice...so why would he put his daughters hand in that of a loose character guy???? If you start snooping through any guys phone after just 2 meetings, of course he's going to get defensive and start erasing things he thinks will set you off! Hell, after almost 14 years of marriage, I still don't go through my husbands phone/wallet/pockets/email/Facebook.
Is your fiancé cheating? Maybe yes, Maybe no. I think the bigger issue here is your insecurity.
Re: confused @scared :(
^okay. Given the situation red flags would be going off in any woman's head.
Re: confused @scared :(
Your father isn't perfect btw. Even a father is only human.
Re: confused @scared :(
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No offense/joking meant...I asked you your age because the way your post is written, you sound like you a very young girl...I was guessing 18-20.
Anyhoo...there is a saying "don't go looking for trouble, and you won't find it"...you yourself said that you trust your fathers choice...so why would he put his daughters hand in that of a loose character guy???? If you start snooping through any guys phone after just 2 meetings, of course he's going to get defensive and start erasing things he thinks will set you off! Hell, after almost 14 years of marriage, I still don't go through my husbands phone/wallet/pockets/email/Facebook.
Is your fiancé cheating? Maybe yes, Maybe no. I think the bigger issue here is your insecurity.
i asked about his mobile beacuse i saw a girl was calling him on his mobile then i asked him can u gave me ur mobile just to check ....and yes i m insecure person i dont want to ruin my life by marrying a wrong person is that bad ?
Re: confused @scared :(
You are not insecure at all deepsentiments.
Re: confused @scared :(
No, it's not bad at all...if your gut feeling is telling you that he's not being honest..than don't second guess yourself...voice your concerns to your parents and if they agree, then end he rishta..it s better to do it now than get married and find out that he is the philandering type
Re: confused @scared :(
I feel like he's trying to do the rright thing to get you over your insecurities, but really I am not in your shoes. You have to decide what is best for you. If you are the type of person who gets doubts easily, then you will always have a difficult time trusting people. Do what you think is best for you, because having doubts like this now, will only grow and ultimately eat you up from inside. You have to either change your way of thinking and come to terms with the situation, or try and find out more information until you are satisfied that you can move on. Whether he did something shady or not, you also need to become more secure with yourself as well. Good luck.
you are actually right i m very insecure person maybe i i m over thinking that hes cheating on me maybe hes not .....anyways thanks for advice n helping me
Re: confused @scared :(
^I know it's easier said than done....but if he reassures and manages to convince you and if you choose to marry him....then you'll have to ease up on the interrogation cuz it can/will hurt the relationship. It'll put him off.
Re: confused @scared 
Almost everyone here is giving horrible advice 
I’ll quote myself again:
Look. You saw a girl calling him on his phone. This is a fact. When you asked, he deleted this contact number before giving the phone to you. This is a fact. He also denied that he knew the girl in question yet he HAD to delete the contact number right before giving it to you. This is a fact.
Unfortunately he does not want you to know THE GIRL WHO IS CALLING HIM. What could be the possible reasons why he doesn’t wants this now?
Do people keep numbers of random callers THEY DO NOT KNOW?
What could he be doing with this girl such that he does not want you to contact her? hmmmmm…
Re: confused @scared :(
i will request the MODS to please close this topic now thanks everyone for the advices...
Re: confused @scared :(
So what's your plan of action. At least tell us this in exchange for all the advice. :)
Re: confused @scared :(
i will request the MODS to please close this topic now thanks everyone for the advices...
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